Many of our “yes” are not as clear-cut as they seem. And “no” means not only a firm refusal and does not speak only about the strength of our personality. Psychologist Rebiha Couillet lists several signs that can help us decipher what we really feel and want to say.
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“Only I tell you -“ yes ”, you immediately tell me -“ no ”, it’s just some kind of trouble!” Karina reproaches her husband. And he seems to follow only one motto: “I protest – therefore I exist.” Such a “no” is a relic of that early age (from one and a half to two years) when a child, protesting, learns to be independent. Sometimes this behavior persists in adults – after all, sometimes it is so difficult for us to win and defend our independence in life. If parents perceived our first attempts to become more independent, to separate from them as whims and responded to them with reproaches and punishments, then even decades later, we, not finding a more positive way of self-affirmation, will be shielded by our “no” like a shield.