Serious relationships, and especially marriage, that begin with deceit, are obviously doomed to failure. Despite this, many partners lie to their loved ones anyway – for various reasons. The hero of this story hid that he bought the bride a fake engagement ring, but the deception was quickly revealed, and the couple was on the verge of a divorce.
The purchase of engagement rings usually falls on the shoulders of men, although recently partners have increasingly equally divided family expenses, including wedding expenses. As a rule, jewelry is quite expensive, and therefore grooms often have to take out loans, get into debt, or even go through fraud in order not to appear stingy or unsuccessful. The hero of this story found himself in such a situation, who anonymously shared his story on the Web.
The man proposed to the bride and invited her to a jewelry store so that she could choose an engagement ring on her own. The girl liked the jewelry with an artificial diamond worth 2,6 thousand dollars (almost 200 thousand rubles). The groom was glad that she did not choose a ring with a real diamond, but, in his opinion, even this option was unreasonably expensive.
He tried to convince the bride to choose a cheaper ring, but she liked this jewelry so much that she refused to make concessions. The girl insisted: she would wear an engagement ring for the rest of her life, which means that you should not save on it. The groom was surprised by her extravagance, because they agreed to save money and not spend money on all sorts of excesses.
As a result, the man secretly agreed with the jeweler to make a cheaper analogue of the ring. The specialist suggested that he use quartz instead of a diamond, due to which the cost of the ring was halved, and the groom agreed.
When the ring was ready, the man gave it to his bride – however, he did not mention that he had changed the stone in it without her consent.
The girl was delighted with the engagement ring, as she could not distinguish quartz from an artificial diamond, and she did not expect that her lover would do this behind her back. “She was happy and without hesitation said yes to me,” the man shared. But, as expected, the secret soon became clear. A few months after the wedding, the girl lost some weight and decided to take the ring to a jewelry workshop to reduce its diameter. It was there that the whole truth was revealed.
The newlyweds had a serious quarrel. The wife accused her husband of cheating, and he insisted that he simply did not focus on this fact. The man recalled that along with the ring, he handed her a receipt, which indicated the cost of the ring and its characteristics, but the girl never looked into it. The partner was also upset by the fact that, in her opinion, her husband greatly overpaid for a ring with quartz, he also claimed that he gave money that was inadequate for a ring with quartz, as the girl put pressure on him.
Commentators sided with the bride, accusing the man of greed and manipulation. “I think you are not mature enough to get married, since you cheated on your wife right before the wedding,” one user noted. They also recalled their experience of buying wedding rings and agreed that a couple of thousand dollars is an adequate amount for such jewelry.
Much more important is not the cost of the ring, but the feelings that partners put into this symbol. And if the purchase turns out to be too expensive for one of the partners, the couple should discuss the problem and find a compromise – for example, a woman could invest the missing amount from her own funds. However, the act of a man looks even worse than the stubbornness of his bride.