The first sex with a new partner is always a leap into the unknown. The likelihood that a new man will find the key to our orgasm the first time is extremely small. This is why new lovers often lose out to exes who, during the relationship, have already learned to please us. Should men know about this?
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“My ex satisfied me much better in bed,” is a phrase that no man would like to hear after the first sex with a girl. It would seem that it should be obvious to both partners that it is at least impolite to compare their sexual partners so openly. However, it also happens in life, as the 19-year-old hero of our story was convinced of by his own experience.
The young man anonymously shared an incident from his sexual life – it turned out to be far from the most pleasant, but at least memorable. The narrator dated the girl for about a month, but broke up with her after the first sex. The thing is that after intimacy, the partner remembered her ex-boyfriend and compared their skills as lovers – and not in favor of our hero.
Of course, the young man was embarrassed by such a remark, especially since at first the girl assured him that this sex was one of the best in her life, since she had an orgasm three times. But then she stressed that he was still far from her former lover. Despite such a tactless remark, the guy tried to justify himself and promised to better satisfy his partner in the future. He explained to her that it was strange to expect some incredible impressions from the first sex – after all, they still do not know each other’s sexual preferences so well.
However, the girl only smirked in response and said dismissively: “Well, of course.”
Naturally, the young man took these words as her deep conviction that he would never compare to her ex, and began to doubt his masculinity. “In general, it seems to me that she likes to have sex with me, but she does not believe that I will ever be as good as her ex,” said the author of the post.
Be that as it may, this remark of the girl put an end to their further relationship – the author of the post decided to cut off contact with her. He turned to netizens for advice to make sure that not only he shares this opinion – it is unacceptable to compare a new guy with an ex.
Users sympathized with the young man and unanimously came to the conclusion that under no circumstances should you do this. “Even if this is true, never say it to your lover’s face,” “Perhaps she is still fixated on her ex, since she remembers him at a completely inappropriate time,” they commented.
Most likely, the girl really only recently got out of a long-term relationship, and therefore memories of a past partner prevent her from building new ones. So, an accidentally thrown phrase, with which she probably did not want to offend her partner, deprived her of the opportunity to get to know a new young man and come together to the best sex in their lives.
Of course, the previous partner had an advantage: at least he was more experienced. At the same time, the first intimacy with a new partner also has its advantages – for example, passion and new experiences. In any case, the couple should have discussed their basic sexual preferences in advance. Perhaps this would deprive the intimacy of a share of spontaneity, but the partners would know in advance how best and faster to please each other.