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The approach of the thirtieth birthday can cause anxiety and anxiety. The transition from carefree youth to a more mature age is inevitable, but it can provoke a psychological crisis of age development, even for those women who are quite self-confident.
If you will soon be 30 years old and you suddenly began to doubt the correctness of your path and the relationships in which you are, you began to fear that you would never succeed in life, then you have obvious symptoms of a crisis of 30 years.
As in the case of the 30-year-old crisis, the “trigger” for XNUMX-year-olds is a completely false attitude that by a certain age you need to understand everything about yourself. Such an approach is fraught with doubt and anxiety: it seems to you that life has deviated from the correct trajectory or does not meet your expectations. In order to calmly say to yourself: “I have come to where I should be,” you must first learn to distinguish the symptoms that are characteristic of entering the Balzac age. Here are some of them:
Lie about your age
Even if you started your fight against aging as soon as you graduated from university, most women are not afraid to celebrate their birthdays widely until the age of 25. If you began to downplay your age, you were overtaken by the crisis of 30 years.
Feel like a failure
If, as you approach your 30th birthday, you have the feeling that you are late on all counts (especially if you compare yourself with your own mother at this age) and there is something in your life that, in your opinion, is important and obligatory, for example, you are not married or have no children – it is useless to be nervous about this and torment yourself. The most important thing to do by this age is to understand what you want from life and what you need to do to achieve it, and not count what you already have!
For some women, past achievements, personal or professional, which they once were very proud of, after some time may no longer seem so important and bright, especially compared to a new understanding of success in life. Be careful, depression may await you along the way! Just keep in mind that regretting things you didn’t do is one of the symptoms of a crisis.
Constantly compare yourself to others
The crisis of 30 years is fueled by comparing yourself with other people of the same age. You bitterly feel that your life is not up to par. You can, of course, get on Facebook and walk through the personal pages of all your friends and even enemies. But be careful! Facebook has been scientifically proven to increase feelings of envy and feelings of loneliness.
Another danger is the “impostor syndrome”. You have succeeded in business and succeeded in life, but you doubt yourself and are not sure of your own abilities. Many successful women may suffer from the so-called “Imposter Syndrome”: it seems to you that everything that is in your life is not made by you, and you only skillfully pretend to be a successful woman.
Think about career changes
Realizing that your job has nothing to do with your youthful dreams, you contemplate quitting or even a radical career change. Psychotherapist Paul Cullan believes that such thoughts are typical for women aged 28 to 32 years. Your new image of an adult woman does not at all mean that you spend more money than you earn, but if the state of your finances suddenly began to seem to you even more miserable than usual, this is also one of the signs of the crisis of 30 years.
Feel cheap
It is possible that, having become ten years older, you look differently at your own behavior and what once seemed important. In modern society, a woman is faced with a variety of opportunities and opinions. Sometimes it is very difficult to make a choice. Take your time, think carefully! Many people notice that work has completely subjugated their personal lives. The pressure you feel in your personal and professional life makes you want stability. At the same time, you began to worry more about love failures.
“Despondency and stress, as a result of a breakup in a love relationship or the complete absence of such a relationship, can intensify after 25 years,” says personal coach Christine Assle. Spending time watching endless TV shows, night after night, night after night, can also be symptomatic of this age crisis. If you have completely stopped communicating with friends and repeatedly refuse invitations to go to the cinema or chat with friends in a cafe, then you will probably need some more time to cope with psychological problems.