Children often try to use profanity in front of adults. “Try to take such experiments more calmly, but stipulate your own rules,” advises child psychologist Irina Mlodik.
Younger students bring from school not only new knowledge and impressions, but also non-literary expressions. You should not fall into anger, shame your son or daughter — after all, almost every child goes through this peculiar stage of linguistic development of the adult world. Many children are attracted by the emotional expressiveness of indecent words, their unpredictable power of influence.
Perhaps someone around your child expresses himself in this way, and he copies this manner in order to become his own in the company of his peers or unconsciously identify with someone significant to him (for example, with his older brother). And some thus defend their independence, «adulthood» in front of their parents. Accidentally dropping forbidden, taboo words in our presence, they challenge our attitudes, define for themselves the boundaries of what is permissible.
Encourage your angry child to draw their abuser and their feelings on paper.
Do not be zealous in prohibitions: they provoke the desire to do out of spite. Express your disapproval clearly, explaining that it is not customary in your family to express yourself in such a way and that the use of abusive language humiliates the interlocutor.
State your ground rules. For example: you should not use obscene words near younger children and women, but it is permissible only sometimes, in a narrow circle of equals (and of the same sex) and only in certain situations (for example, when emotions go off scale).
Advise the child in a state of anger to draw his offender and his feelings on paper, and then tear the sheet — this will help him get rid of irritation and aggression. In a family where swear words are not used, the problem is likely to dissolve by itself.