A bored child is a problem child. He then pulls his parents: “Play with me!”, Then he sticks to other children, then he begins to engage in dangerous nonsense.
How to help your child to do something really interesting?
And who will decide whether the case is interesting or not? Is it interesting to mess around in the mud, chase pigeons, sit at the computer all day and night long? Is it interesting to read, wash floors, cook? How interesting is it to walk the streets of your city, learn to play the violin, learn something new? Look at the people around you: for each of them, the answers to these questions will be different.
How does a little person know what is interesting and what is not? This usually consists of:
- It turns out the case (difficult, easy, beautiful)
- How much others like the thing itself and what the child does
- When a child gets older — how much he himself sees the meaning in this matter
Therefore, to help, to interest, means to teach how to do it in such a way that it works out (breaking actions into small, accessible parts; leading the child from simple to complex; raising the bar of requirements only after he has mastered the matter well), and to the parent himself — to be interested this case seriously, honestly (pay attention, notice the details, enjoy the little things). Rarely do children whose parents like TV or walk more read. But if the parents are musicians, or they speak a certain language well, the children in the family, as a rule, pick up this tradition.
Parents, as a rule, are more relevant — to interest the child in something useful. So that he is happy to do important and necessary things. The answer inevitably follows from the above: start doing it yourself — with pleasure, with attention, with joy from the process and from the results. Can you interest yourself? By the same principles: notice how and what people do, who make it so that it’s a pleasure to look at. Repeat again and again. Rejoice in every progress you make. Share your findings with your family, with your child; tell him what and how you succeed, and what does not work, and how you think it should be redone. Your interest in the lesson, your attention are those valuable gifts that you can pass on to a child. Be generous!
And one more thing: do not think that interest flashes instantly, that if it does not appear immediately, it will never happen. It can grow slowly, from warm moments with parents, from memories “how we didn’t want to, how difficult it was for us, but we did it!”, from earned skills. Do not wait for the initiative from the child (if it is — good, no — also good), show it yourself. The kid will never be able to go to the playground on his own — he will learn something about it from his mother. A junior schoolboy will never go on a hike or go to the conservatory. Behind all these actions, there is always a person. An adult who tells, leads, teaches. Children develop only when their parents develop them. Every parent teaches his child many things every day — let’s do it with interest! Respect for those who do. And success too.
Good luck, friends!
This article presents a very true, but feminine view of the situation. Men usually solve this issue in a simpler and more radical way: all family members should have their own affairs, their own family responsibilities, and when you are busy with business, you have no time to be bored. And if you’re bored, then you’re out of business. Go to your parents and find out what to do, they will help you solve this issue.