The body says: how to learn to hear it?

Our body is a delicate instrument. It reacts to all external influences and gives signals if something has gone wrong in our life. Of course, they all manifest themselves individually, but there are patterns. So, fears become clamps in the body and stoop, constant control – pain in the abdomen, excessive responsibility – heaviness in the shoulders.

The most difficult thing is to hear and receive the signal of the body. To do this, you need to be honest with yourself. This is the first step. First and only.

Being honest with yourself means acknowledging your feelings, living them, not extinguishing them. Some people are afraid of negative emotions – fear, anger, sadness. They shut themselves off from them, saying: “I will be stronger than this, I can handle it.” Today it is fashionable to be a strong person, we put on masks, hide feelings. In this state, it is impossible to hear the signals of your body.

As a result, many notice a problem when the pain becomes unbearable. Then real problems begin with the liver, heart, stomach, spine, etc.

Dialogue with yourself

Today we pay more attention to the form than to the content: how we eat, what we wear, what we do, what we have achieved. Form is a kind of self-defense. With its help, we hide the real ourselves, set limits. It is always difficult to go beyond their borders. Practice shows that a person clings tightly to any conventions, to invented symbols of success, to fictitious goals.

As a result, he builds his life on resistance and fear, resentment and overcoming. The body shrinks, the arteries are pinched, there is no normal blood circulation, the joints do not receive nutrition, but the person does not hear these signals. He injects an anesthetic, literally or figuratively, and continues on his way to the goal, finally killing his body. As a result, he achieves what he aspired to, but does not feel happy. It turns out that all his efforts were an escape from himself. And his body warned him about it.

When a person goes his own way, he grows, develops, becomes wiser. He has no clamps in his body. He moves freely and uninhibited. He does not need to resist and overcome himself, he knows that this is his destiny. Oddly enough, but the best defense is openness and honesty.

To learn to feel the signals of the body, you need to listen to yourself, analyze your true desires. You can work with the body through touch or through conversation. For example, I touch on a certain topic in a conversation with a person, and he holds his breath. It’s hard for him. The person does not want to let this feeling in. She inhales and starts crying.

Talk to yourself:

I don’t want to go to work today because I’m tired.

Why am I tired?

Because I took on too much.

Why did I take too much?

Because I want to be somebody.

Why do I want to be somebody?

“If I don’t be somebody, I won’t be loved.

Whose love do I miss? Where else have I experienced a similar feeling?

“I remember it from my childhood. I missed the love of my mom and dad so much.

After such a conversation, the body will relax, because you told yourself the truth. You have been honest with yourself. We surround ourselves with work, but it is necessary – with human warmth. Work and success do not give warmth. It can only be given by family or loved ones.

When I talk about listening to yourself, many people react as if something is being taken away from them. Inwardly, a person understands that when he begins to act from the heart, he will have to change his usual way. It scares. For example, it’s hard to admit that this job is not for you.

I’m not saying that we should give up material goods. Just ask yourself why you need them. You can break into a cake, take on a lot of work, take out a loan and buy an expensive car. But it won’t be your car. Or you can buy an inexpensive one, but for which you do not need to overcome yourself. An expensive car and a cheap car drive the same way. If you need a car to transport yourself and loved ones from point A to point B, you should not overpower yourself.

Nobody is forcing you to quit your job. But it should bring pleasure, help you grow and improve yourself. I know people who can’t work for someone. For them, this is hard labor. And they are honest with themselves. They work for themselves. If they get a job in some large organization, they regard it as a kind of personal training, an opportunity to learn something and gain important experience.

Dialogue with the inner child

Starting something new for yourself, you may experience unexpected emotions – anger, fear, insecurity. You return to the mode of a child who does not understand anything and is afraid to be alone.

Our past experiences, recorded in the body, influence us. Especially the experience of a child from birth to 5 years. So the parents went to the store, and the kid got scared. This is reflected in adult behavior. When you have to make a decision, to do something on your own, that child inside you gets scared again. And instead of acting, you decide to go back, lie on the couch, hide from everyone.

This moment must be experienced. Understand that everything will be fine, calm yourself, talk with yourself and with that inner child:

– What are you afraid of?

– That I’ll be alone. What I can’t do.

Where else have you felt like this?

– In early childhood, when I woke up and there was no one at home. I thought I had been abandoned. I cried, I was scared. It turned out that my parents put me to bed and went to a nearby store.

In this situation, everything was resolved well – the parents returned, but the experience remained in the memory, as well as feelings of fear, helplessness. In this case, you need to keep asking yourself questions.

– What decisions did I make then, so as not to feel fear and helplessness?

– Don’t be alone. When I am alone, I am helpless.

In order to undo the decision made, which manifests itself in different situations throughout life, you need to return to the moment of making this decision. Reconsider the situation and consciously reverse this decision. For example, like this: “I make a decision to live, feel, act, even when alone.” This is one of the many ways you can transform your life situation.

When you become aware of your emotions and find their cause, it becomes easier for you to move forward. Therefore, it is so important to listen to yourself, analyze moments from the past. Ask yourself what you want out of life and start taking steps in that direction.