It is called disgusting and disgusting. But she is sure: no one can make a woman feel inferior.
Brenda Rivers Stearns from Ohio is 32 years old. She met her husband in 2009. And for ten years of marriage, the couple managed to acquire five children: the eldest daughter is seven years old, the youngest baby is only nine months old.
It is clear that five pregnancies almost in a row could not pass without a trace for the female body. Starting with the first very difficult birth, which ended with a cesarean section and left stretch marks, a huge scar, flabbiness, folds and sagging breasts as a memory.
Of course, at first Brenda was very shy about her abdominal scars and wrinkled skin. And then she realized something …
“Before, I dreamed of losing weight as quickly as possible, regaining my previous appearance,” says a mother with many children. “But the truth is, I don’t need that girl’s body anymore.” It does not know what it is like to carry a person inside, to take care of a child, it does not know the true meaning of self-sacrifice and does not understand how powerful and amazing it really is. It took me five pregnancies, two cesarean sections – one emergency, one planned, and three natural births after a cesarean to love my body for what it could do and the way it looks. “
Now Brenda is trying to convince all mothers in the world: they are beautiful! During her last pregnancy, she regularly posted pictures of her tummy. At the same time, she did not hide any scars or age spots. Now, on Instagram, American women have the most natural, natural pictures, where there is not a single gram of Photoshop, and even on the contrary, every fold on the belly is emphasized. And every frame of her literally screams: “Hey, mommy! You’re beautiful!” We are not kidding, the plate with this inscription is on Brenda’s photographs.
A mother of many children admits: the first time after the birth of her fifth son, instead of losing weight, she began to gain it. She was not happy with her body, did not feel comfortable.
“I was focused on emotions, not reality,” the woman says. – And she is such that my body in any form is strong and beautiful! And your bodies too! “
Most women thank Brenda for her candor and find her pictures inspiring. But the family, as usual, is not without its black sheep. And in the comments below the photos, people often appear who consider their aesthetic feelings to be greatly offended. Ugly and disgusting are the mildest epithets that Internet trolls give a young mother.
Another would be “blown away”, dropped her hands. But the wrong one was attacked. The more Brenda is bullied, the more often she uploads such photos.
“I hate these comments,” Brenda admits. “But I’m not going to stop. While some will hide behind nicknames and call us flawed, I will remind you: for our children we are perfect. “
Interview
Do you use Photoshop and filters when posting photos on social networks?
I’m not me without photoshop. You need to hide all the flaws and emphasize the advantages
I do not sin with graphic editors, but I use filters all the time. With them, the photo looks brighter and more beautiful.
I use it, but very rarely
No. But I use the hashtag # no filters!