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The attitude of parents to a child can be very different: interested and indifferent, with love and fear, wise and thoughtless.
It is interesting to read the history of the issue. As Lloyd Demos writes, “Childhood history is a nightmare from which we have only recently begun to awaken. The deeper into history, the less concern for children and the more likely a child is to be killed, abandoned, beaten, terrorized and sexually abused.
Types of education, models of education
Speaking about the types of upbringing, first of all they write about such types as conniving hyper-protection, emotional rejection, dominant hyper-protection, increased moral responsibility, neglect, abuse.
These are the most common 6 types of parenting. A broader list of 10 types are: hypoprotection, dominant overprotection, condoning hyperprotection, condoning hypoprotection, disease cult upbringing, emotional rejection, abuse, increased moral responsibility, conflicting upbringing, and upbringing outside the family. See →
It is quite obvious that these are all types of problem parenting. It’s not what parents choose, it’s something. what troubled parents do. It is often written that these types of problem parenting are opposed by authoritative parenting: a combination of warmth and relatively strict control over the child, but control that is understandable to the child and is carried out clearly and consistently, so that children know what to expect if they violate the rules set by their parents. That is, there are many problematic types of education, but the correct education is one: “authoritative education”. Is it so? Unfortunately, this is not so.
Those (rare) parents who approach education consciously, who think about raising children, who choose, choose their own style and method of education for themselves and for the child, also face a choice. Conscious parenting is not one, but different models of parenting, each of which has its own characteristics, its pros and cons. It is not obvious that strict upbringing cannot be a conscious and once adequate choice, many parents are attracted by the model of natural upbringing with practically no social prohibitions, but even relatively free upbringing with reasonable restrictions can be directed to varying degrees. How will be correct? We can offer our description of the main models of education and our comments. We hope. that our best readers in the world will make theirs. the right choice!
Relationships instead of upbringing
The goals of education are what we achieve in education, what kind of child (person) we want to raise, for what. We talk about the goals of education when we are in a reasonable and conscious state. How often do we find ourselves in this state? When parents, that is, just young people and girls, live in their usual way, that is, without thinking, being in a low-conscious state, they do not raise children, they simply live next to them and simply relate to them somehow. How? Differently…
Parents and love for children
In itself, the birth of a child does not at all guarantee that the parents will love him; the love of parents for children is influenced by household and life circumstances. Although in many families the child is proclaimed a super value, love for children is more often proclaimed than actually happening. See →
Rights and responsibilities of parents
Whose child is this? — Your. Whose responsibility is it for how it grows? — Yours. — Then why has your child been sitting stupidly in front of the TV for the fourth hour already, watching the monotonous clips of Muz-TV? See Rights and Responsibilities of Parents
Legal aspect
In relation to parents to the child, the requirements of the Declaration on the Rights of the Child must be taken into account, in accordance with which the child must be provided with opportunities and favorable conditions that would allow him to develop physically, mentally, morally, spiritually and socially in a healthy and normal way and in conditions freedom and dignity.