During their married life, partners may be tempted to try libertine sex, to rekindle desire or simply explore other forms of pleasure. Among these new avenues to enjoyment, bondage is considered an extreme. Akin to a form of sadomasochism, attached sex is however fantasizing.

Japanese bondage at the origin of sadomasochistic practices

Ancestral, the practice of bondage is originally an art practiced in Japan, and initially intended to be used for purposes much less erotic than sex. Japanese bondage was indeed at the time a torture technique based on the tying up of victims: the position of the prisoners in this way made it possible to make them feel more or less extreme discomfort. With a repressive connotation, Japanese bondage has gradually entered into sexual mores to become a BDSM practice, a source of sadomasochistic pleasure.

BDSM: a trend that remains taboo

Sadomasochistic erotic games suffer from a pejorative connotation, to the extent that they involve submission and physical pain. In this context, bondage remains relatively taboo, and reserved for the most libertine couples. Yet this erotic staging, practiced with attention, can be a source of new and even more intense pleasure. 

Bondage, instructions for use

The basic principle of bondage is simple: one partner attaches the other, certain movements of which remain hindered throughout the duration of intercourse, until orgasm. If bondage advocates the art of ties, it is not necessary to know the knots to try attached sex. Likewise, it is not obligatory to tie up the other completely: hands, feet or blindfolded, each couple has the choice to hinder the parts of the body of their choice. Finally, there is no rule in terms of tie: a ribbon can act as a tie, just like string, a pair of handcuffs or adhesive tape, more or less tight according to the tolerance of the lovers and the level. of submission, more or less soft, considered by lovers.

The mutual consent of lovers, a sine qua non of pleasure

If bondage is a form of domination, BDSM games should be aimed at providing sexual pleasure. To this extent, the use of ties during intercourse must not only be the result of a common will of the partners, but also be implemented in such a way as not to cause unwanted discomfort. In this same perspective, a climate of trust is essential for the success of the initiative.

Dominant and dominated: the pleasure must be shared

While bondage falls into the category of sadomasochistic games, it should not for all that be considered a vector of suffering, quite the contrary. The dominated must enjoy being tied up, and the dominant must be excited to submit the other. The attached partner can feel an orgasm all the more intense the more his partner is master of his enjoyment: by having no control over when he will enjoy, the dominated becomes all the more excited. Conversely, the lover who takes control feels pleasure in directing the turn of the sexual act, and in seeing his partner thus dominated. 

Bondage, like other SM practices, can be a source of extreme pleasure for sadomasochistic partners. But attached sex, in soft conditions, can also appeal to lovers who are not used to practicing BDSM games: by changing their habits, they spice up their sexuality for more excitement and pleasure.

Be careful, however, of the excesses of bondage. Ties that are too tight, in the wrong place, can cause unwanted pain. Likewise, the tie passed around the neck to block breathing and the flow of blood presents a great danger of strangulation. The partners must therefore remain in tune with each other throughout the attached sexual act.