The 13 signs that someone is trying to manipulate you

The manipulators: skillful and cunning, they advance in masks to achieve their end. We all know about it, and more than we think. Indeed, the best of them are the most unsuspected.

If you have doubts about someone, that this feeling that you are rotting your life gently settles in you, read this little post. Here are the 13 signs that someone is trying to manipulate you.

To make your reading a little more lively, I decided to name our manipulator of the day Camille, to decline in the masculine or the feminine according to your suspect n ° 1.

1- Camille and communication, that’s at least two

To confuse the issue, the manipulator never reveals his needs and even less his intentions. It blurs the tracks while always remaining evasive or imprecise. If by mistake you reproach him for it, he will put on his best costume of a misunderstood and neglected victim …

easy. His worst nightmare is being trapped, so he avoids serious conversations as much as possible by changing the subject or face-to-face interviews by inviting third parties. On the contrary, he loves bistro conversations, gossip and other rumors.

These are delicious ingredients for him that he will not fail to use in the future to manipulate other people.

2- Camille is a real social chameleon

Camille is an opportunist: he always chooses the camp of the strongest. He returns his jacket faster than lightning and will not hesitate to change his opinion or speech at all.

To generalize, he lies as he breathes in order to take advantage of every situation. Do you blame him? Camille will undoubtedly pretend that you are losing your temper or are paranoid.

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3- Camille makes you doubt yourself

Did you think you were an expert in this or that field? At the slightest misstep, the manipulator does not fail to point it out to you to destabilize you. He will question your skills and qualities as soon as possible, preferably in public.

It is also on these occasions that he prides himself on a certain superiority over others. If someone puts you down like this, it’s a safe bet that they are trying to manipulate you.

4- Camille uses you as an intermediary

A somewhat embarrassing request to pass and hop, Camille approaches you.

Oddly, it starts to brush you sideways, promises you wonders and everlasting gratitude. You then set out to do things that you would not have done on your own. Do you refuse? The manipulator moves up a gear …

5- Camille makes you feel guilty

And not just any way! The manipulator presses where it hurts. He has more than one string to his bow, and all are sensitive to desire: love, family, friendship and professional issues are his main playgrounds.

He traps you in the name of morality and when he’s in a playful mood, he even accompanies that with threats or implicit blackmail.

6- If you try to react, Camille gently puts you in your place

Among his favorite phrases, we count “Don’t you think you’re exaggerating a bit there?” “,” Don’t dramatize everything like that “and” Why do you always bring everything back to you? In general, he avoids grand tirades: the art of the manipulator is to play on the implicit and the unspoken.

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7- Extremely proud, Camille often feels attacked

Behind the manipulator is often someone particularly sensitive. If your Camille perceives every comment, every opinion and every remark against him as criticism, he is probably a manipulator.

Obviously, he will not openly show that he feels himself being attacked: Camille keeps his false smile in all circumstances to give an image of invincibility and to discourage his enemies.

8- Camille: blunderer by profession

You have noticed ? Camille always has her feet in the dish, and not just a little. In general, it is done with such ingenuity that it would be hard to blame it …

Thanks to these little balls, Camille sows discord and doubts between you and the others. Breaking friendships, careers or romantic relationships is his favorite pastime … always with finesse, of course.

9- Camille is at the center of all conversations

And this just as well when he participates in it as when he is absent. Indeed, if he is there, he lets his exaggerated egocentrism flourish, and becomes a real topic of conversation. When he’s not around, guess what?

Yes, we are still talking about him! It must be said that strangely, we find him in most stories, with an often predominant role.

10- Camille has eyes and ears everywhere

Nothing escapes him, he is aware of the slightest facts and gestures of each. It’s a bit Big Brother, hard to hide anything from him.

If your Camille therefore knows what you did this weekend, that he knows your personal problems and the last file you have to work on without even having mentioned it to him, it is because he is making inquiries … caution.

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11- Camille is full of principles and respects none

The manipulator is a great follower of sermons and moral lessons. He often criticizes you for things he does himself, in all areas: what you are, what you do, what you say, your interactions with others …

It’s done with so much aplomb that you have a hard time telling him that he’s guilty of the same things a hundredfold.

12- Camille reads you like an open book

Anyone who seeks to manipulate you does so in a meticulous way: he makes inquiries. He therefore knows your weaknesses and strengths, your sensitive points, your culture and your values.

He is endowed with a remarkable intelligence and he is sufficiently psychologist never to push the plug too far. However, he will take great pleasure in surfing with your limits, pushing you to the limit without really giving you the opportunity to let your anger explode.

13- Camille doesn’t feel anything

The total lack of empathy: for him it is more of an illness than a choice of life. This is not the case for everyone, but a high-ranking manipulator, close to the narcissistic pervert, has very few human feelings.

Have you never seen him laugh frankly and uninhibited or burst into tears? Beware. Moreover, it is rare for the manipulator to let himself be carried away in a fit of anger: his resentment and his rage are deep and latent, he does not feel the need to make them spring up and will be careful not to do so.

Conclusion

So these are the main signals that should alert you. If, by replacing Camille with another first name, you see the whole portrait of a member of your entourage, he is most likely trying to manipulate you.

Do not think he is invincible: manipulators are made of appearances and it is up to you to react to get out of this unbearable situation.

For having paid for it myself professionally, I promise you that you will feel infinitely better leaving this unhealthy daily life, even if it means breaking pots in the process.

That’s all for today, I hope I have been useful to you, and by the way, I apologize to all the Camilles!