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That romantic love can with everything is a big lie
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The psychologists Laura Rodríguez and Silvia González, from the team of ‘In Mental Balance’ banish another myth about psychology and explain why it is not true that love allows us to overcome all kinds of difficulties
PM3:50Maybe he love Romantic is one of the most studied behaviors, but what does seem clear from the field of psychology is that it is one of the least understood. One of the most relevant investigations in this regard is that directed more than 15 years ago by the biological anthropologist Helen Fisher. In this work, he studied 166 societies and found evidence of romantic love in 147 of them. This groundbreaking study by Fisher and his team for the first time included functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI) of the brains of people in love.
Another of the most recognized authors regarding the study of romantic love is Coral Herrera. She explains that when we talk about romantic love there are several groups of myths. The one who says that “romantic love can do everything” speaks of the supposed omnipotence of love. But by accepting this we may encounter difficulties as it can be used as a excuse not to modify certain behaviors or attitudes or it can even lead to misinterpretation of conflicts in the couple. The point is that no, love cannot do everything. In fact, it is still a social construct (a label used to define a set of behaviors) that we can reject if it does not suit our professional, family or individual life. Not all people are ready to have a long-lasting relationship, and not all people want or are ready to have only one type of relationship.
Loving is not enough
Some couples live together and others do not, although in reality they can, they are happy maintaining their space and living in different houses. Some couples decide to try to overcome a certain obstacle and others decide to separate before that same obstacle. The truth is that all couples, with their decisions and their ways of seeing life, are equally respectable. But no matter how much two people love each other, this is not enough to maintain a relationship because, despite what we learn from childhood, loving is not enough. And although this myth has been heard by all people at some point, romantic love is not omnipotent, it cannot overcome any difficulty. Rather, the opposite happens because there are many difficulties that end with love.
The psychologist Laura Rodríguez Mondragón combines her work as a psychotherapist with adolescents, young people, adults and couples with the completion of her Doctoral Thesis on Eating Disorders and Personality‘at the Autonomous University of Madrid (UAM). There he completed the Master in General Health Psychology. She has also been a tutor of master’s degree practices at the Autonomous University of Madrid and the Pontifical University of Comillas.
He has conducted various research and prevention programs for ‘online grooming’ and self-harm in adolescents, among others. He has experience in working with groups at risk of social exclusion.
For her part, Silvia González, who is also part of the ‘In Mental Balance’ team, is a psychologist, with a master’s degree in Clinical and Health Psychology and a Master’s degree in General Health Psychology. She has worked at the University Psychology Clinic of the UCM, where she has also been a tutor to the students of the University Master’s Degree in General Health Psychology. In the field of teaching, he has given informative workshops in numerous institutions such as ‘Emotional understanding and regulation workshop’, ‘Workshop to improve public speaking skillso ‘o’ Test Anxiety Workshop ‘.