Contents
- 1. Make eye contact
- 2. Try to be first or last
- 3. Watch the position of the interlocutor’s legs
- 4. Study random glances
- 5. Remember the power of silence
- 6. Sit closer to a potential opponent
- 7. Feel free to ask for help
- 8. Call the interlocutor by name
- 9. Mirror his movements
- 10. Look at the aisles between people
- 11. Participate in collaborative activities
- 12. Remember the importance of shaking hands
- 13. Share knowledge
Sit closer, look into the eyes, say the name of the interlocutor several times … What other tricks will help us to be heard and correctly understood?
1. Make eye contact
Starting a conversation, silently answer the question – what color are the eyes of the interlocutor? This is an easy way to make eye contact—not to overdo it by glaring at the other person, and to overcome embarrassment if you normally avoid making eye contact. Your counterpart will feel trust, and you will come across as a confident person.
2. Try to be first or last
We always remember the first and last few minutes of the meeting better, the “middle” remains a blur in our memory. So if you’re going to a job interview, try to be the first or last candidate of the day.
3. Watch the position of the interlocutor’s legs
By the position of the legs, you can often guess the intentions of the interlocutor. For example, you walk up to two people talking animatedly and notice that they turn their bodies towards you, but their feet remain in place: a sure sign that they would rather be left alone. Or – when talking to you, a person turns his feet to the side – it means that he would prefer to avoid talking.
4. Study random glances
When we communicate in a group and there is unexpected laughter, each of us instinctively casts a glance at the one for whom he feels the most sympathy. This is a great way to find out who likes whom.
5. Remember the power of silence
That is what psychotherapists use to talk the patient. If your question is not answered satisfactorily, pause and look the other person in the eye. As a rule, in such a situation, we feel the need to clarify the previous answer and tell more.
6. Sit closer to a potential opponent
If you know that someone is going to “run over” you at a meeting, unceremoniously sit next to this person. Proximity to you will reduce his aggression and the conversation will go softer.
7. Feel free to ask for help
When we ask others for small favors, we reinforce in them the feeling that they like us.
8. Call the interlocutor by name
If you memorize the name of the person you just met and say it several times during a conversation, you will be remembered as a sweet and charming interlocutor.
9. Mirror his movements
By repeating the movements of the interlocutor, we thereby strengthen his confidence in us. The only thing is that it is important not to overdo it with “body language”.
10. Look at the aisles between people
When moving through a crowd, look at the aisles between people, not at the people themselves. As a rule, they part for you to pass – this is an instinctive reaction.
11. Participate in collaborative activities
Adrenaline-intensive activities—roller coasters, watching a horror movie, trying to get robbed—bring us incredibly quickly to other people. The excitement caused by adrenaline makes them think that our company is pleasant to them. I would like, of course, that it was always like this, and not only in a stressful situation.
12. Remember the importance of shaking hands
A warm handshake evokes much more pleasant feelings in the interlocutor than a cold one. What is the conclusion from this? Buy gloves.
The best way to learn is to teach. If you just learned something new, share it with the other person as soon as possible.