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They offended each other and they offended each other. The result is a quarrel.
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To be offended is an action. To be offended is to begin to see what happened as an insult to oneself, to begin to experience a feeling of resentment, to maintain a feeling of resentment in oneself and to behave offended: to avoid the offender, not to talk to him, to blame him. To be offended is to offend yourself. The author of your offense is always yourself.
The more often a person sees resentment around him, the easier he is offended, the more reason to talk about his resentment as a character trait. See →
Resentment is not an innate emotion. Babies have in their arsenal an inborn, behaviorally quite simple, state of aggression, and they still have to master the complex behavior of resentment.
Real men can get angry, but not offended. Resentment is allowed for women and children, in male culture it is not customary to be offended.
Mechanism of resentment
Resentment is not just done … In connection with an event understood as an insult, to put pressure on the offender, we turn on anger (protest, accusations, aggression). If the possibility of direct aggression is closed (by impossibility or blocked by fear), then … See →
Is it worth it to be offended?
Being offended is a childish demonstrative behavior characteristic of Parasites. As a rule, among adults, being offended is stupid and ineffective.
On the other hand, resentment (demonstration of resentment) can be a very effective means of influence on loved ones and relatives with attachments.
Offended by you: how to react?
If you are offended, your reaction can be very diverse. Much depends on the validity of the offense in your direction, the personality of the one who is offended and the history of your relationship. See →