Stupidity

Stupidity — lack of consideration, inability to turn on the head and think. Or turning off considerations, turning off the mind — when it is beneficial.

The ability not to hear what is not worth hearing, the ability not to understand what cannot be understood or is not profitable is part of the ability to lead one’s own line and is used by many wise people.

It is not difficult to go dumb, that is, turn off your head and stop thinking, most adults can do this. Someone does it habitually, without changing facial expressions, someone uses simple bodily keys: expanding their eyes at the same time as relaxing the muscles around the eyes. The facial expression becomes dull, the head goes into a relaxed state of nothing thinking. How do adults recognize this simple trick? From my childhood experience. Children are excellent specialists in managing their intellect, they can easily both think and occupy themselves with something else, more interesting or simply necessary.

Children are not born stupid, children become stupid. How?

Sometimes children get dumb because their parents insist on it very much. If over and over again you inspire the child: “Well, why don’t you understand? You live without a head! You are the dumbest in the class!” then sooner or later even the dumbest child will realize that being dumb is his destiny. Sometimes parents are not comfortable with a child who asks too many questions and argues with them, and then you can give a slap on the back of the head and formulate: “There is nothing to be so smart!”, “Look, what a smart guy was found. Who are you to think? Shut up and listen.» Some of the children agree to this out of fear, some out of anger: “You don’t want me to think, well, please. I will become stupid to spite you, then you will regret it!

However, it is wrong to reduce everything to negative parental suggestions: smart, creative children themselves teach themselves to become dumb when it becomes beneficial for them, when it helps them in solving certain everyday problems.

For example, we have a family: father, mother, brother and sister. Parents want their children to learn, but what do children want? What is their task? Normal children do not always want to learn, they are more interested in jumping, running, having fun (the option is to sit in front of the TV or chat on Vkontakte). In this situation, an obedient child, namely a sister, will sit over textbooks, and a smarter, more creative brother will figure out how not to do the lessons. How? When a sister with smart eyes sorts out the puzzles herself, a more quick-witted brother with a sigh sits down at his textbooks and sits dejectedly, staring blankly at these idiotic tasks. All he needs to do is play dumb, and then his parents will do everything for him. He starts a dreary song: “I don’t understand anything here! I’m not good at anything!”, and this song usually sounds convincing: he’s not good at it, he doesn’t understand perfectly. He will play his role with talent, and when his parents scold him for his stupidity, he will have a guilty face, sad eyes and a hunched back. Total? Parents will quarrel at him — and give up. They will sit next to him and in the next 15 minutes he will do all the lessons. If his parents give him a slap on the back of the head for his stupidity and laziness, maybe he will start to think, but most likely he will act differently: you can be offended and cry at your parents. This is also not difficult at all, then the parents will regret it, and you can not do the lessons again. If that doesn’t work, then you need to play for time. Mom is busy, she won’t be able to sit on him for a long time and just let him go for a walk. «It’s all the same stupid» — go, go for a walk. And the sister will teach extra lessons, because she is a fool — so smart.

What are smart parents to do? Do not swear and have patience: do not allow such games and patiently teach the child to be smart. First of all, follow the child’s speech, his intonations and bodily format. If your son says: “I don’t understand anything!”, you smile and ask him to add: “I don’t understand everything here, but I’ll figure it out now.” Reply: “I can’t do it!” you correct for: “I can do it! I’m smart»

Let your child repeat that he is smart. that he is talented, that when he obeys smart parents, he will succeed — everything!

When he takes a briefcase and goes to the table with you to study, let him not drag his feet, let him walk cheerfully and cheerfully. He will sit not crooked, but straight, he will put the notebook not anyhow, but evenly and beautifully. Next, watch the expression of his eyes and face in general: track how he makes a stupid face and correct it. After that, you can repeat the exercise “Smart face — stupid face — smart face” with him several times, you always need to complete the exercise with a smart face.

And where will he go next to such smart, such talented parents!