Over the years of work, I discovered an interesting fact: the strongest and happiest families belong to churched believers and hereditary officers and merchants. What is behind this?
Discipline. What in religion, what in the military sphere without it anywhere.
External control. Man is a very interesting creature. It is difficult for him to live without external control. Those who train at a distance with me know perfectly well that it is very difficult to train alone. But when there is a team whose members follow each other’s work, support, help — this is a completely different matter, it becomes easier to do. High-quality, caring and smart control is a must.
Pride in family lineage. I have a photo of my father and mother always before my eyes. I am very proud of them. I would very much like and know, there is reason to hope that my children will always be proud of me. And the grandchildren will be proud of me and their parents. This dynastic line, when we know who started our family, and that we can continue this wonderful work — this gives rise to legitimate pride and a desire to live long, strong, beautiful and dignified.
And what do colleagues write about it?
Research by Florence Kaslow (Ph.D., director of the Florida Institute of Family and Marriage in West Palm Beach) reveals a number of factors that seem to be common among married couples who are highly satisfied with their life together.
- An open expression of love and tender feelings.
- Mutual trust and respect.
- Common interests and values.
- Love for children and interest in their lives.
- The ability to give and take.
- Being sensitive to each other’s needs and desires.
- Relationships in which there is no desire to rule.
- Elements of the game, joint entertainment.
- Well developed sense of humor.