«Strong woman» and «weak woman». «Real man» and «weakling». In fact, we constantly confuse manifestations of strength and weakness. Let’s try to find out how things really are.
- Call first or call first
Strength if you do this not out of fear that your partner will not call at all, but simply because you want to chat with him. And you feel good when your partner has lost interest and it’s not worth calling anymore.
- First or first to confess love
Power! You put yourself in a vulnerable position, and only a strong person can do this. The first to show feelings is not weakness, but sincerity, that is, fearlessness.
- Take the first step towards reconciliation
Power. And only in one case, weakness: if they humiliated, insulted, insulted — only you, and you behaved with dignity, but now, despite this, you are afraid that you were completely offended. Then, no matter how much you love, you must grit your teeth and be silent. Otherwise, you will be treated badly.
- Believe that a man should be in charge, and a woman should obey
He thinks it’s a strength, but it’s a weakness. This is not enough for any woman these days. A woman who lives like this, rather than gaining wealth, loses in spontaneity, freedom in thoughts, words, movement. Therefore, the headship of a man is felt not as a gift, but as a burden.
- To believe that a man should love a woman just like that, just because she is …
…or that a woman should love a man as his mother loved him. I consider myself strong (strong) and can not change, «and you try.» This position is a weakness, not a strength. We always have room to change, and it doesn’t have to be “a deflection for a partner.”
- First you to me and then I to you
Counting compliments, kisses, calls, likes… Weakness. «I will give myself up, and I will be neglected.» Demanding guarantees of their emotional security. A strong person can give emotions unilaterally for some time and is able to calmly wait for a response. And if it is not there at all, accept the refusal.
- Be my dream!
Weakness. “I came up with you, but you don’t want to match.” Or: «You must (should) guess and know what I want, but I must not (should not) say.»
- Chase for love
Weakness. A person believes that he is such a gift that only a fool can not accept it. A dangerous illusion that creates dull Pierrots and poor girls with burning eyes.
- Always make decisions for your partner
Weakness. If the initiative is always on your side, then your partner does not really need your relationship. And you really need it, so you drag them alone, fearing that they will run out.