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Margaret Thatcher really trained her voice to sound authoritative. She did it to herself.
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When parents formulate (or remind) rules to children, they do not always do it correctly. Not only what you say is very important, but also how you say it. What is important to pay attention to?
Speak in a calm, firm voice
Much like your choice of words, the sound of your voice matters. A quiet, pleading voice is not demanding for your child. Yelling is not a method either (see →). Speak confidently cheerfully—or in a calm, firm voice
Emphasize the seriousness of the conversation with body language
Examples of Unfortunate and Helping Positions
It is important that you look at the child and touch to add weight to your words. We must admit that it is not always easy. Many children try to disappear as soon as «the smell of fried». Perhaps he turns his head away or closes his eyes. No need to force him to «look in the eye.» He will feel your gaze even with his eyes closed. Framework Film «Sheikh Khamidov» Leader’s command voice download video What do you do if a child plugs his ears with his fingers? You can take his hands and hold them in yours while you talk to him. Note that this is a short, clear demand, not a long conversation. What do you do if the child does not stay standing, but runs away? If you’re really serious about saying something, you can’t let him go. And since he does not stay with you voluntarily, there is nothing else left but to keep him. As gently as possible and as convincingly as possible. Look at him at the same time and say what you want from him. Some readers will probably object: “First, I have to command the child, and then also hold it by force? This already borders on violence. This is just using my physical superiority!” Of course, it is also much more preferable for me that the child stays voluntarily. But what choice do we have if the child runs away? Do you want to shout your demands after him? He won’t even hear. Are you going to run after him while «issuing clear instructions»? The child will have great fun. React with a shrug of the shoulders and the words “Well, no, no, no!” and leave it as it is? Then the child teaches: «As soon as it becomes unpleasant, you just need to run away.» He will always run away. And listen to you only if he himself wants it, and definitely not when it is really necessary. |