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Step 65: “When you wish someone well, the beneficiary and beneficiary are you”
The 88 rungs of happy people
In this chapter of “The 88 Steps of Happy People” I motivate you to train the habit of wishing well
I’m going to give you a test. You have to complete these two sentences, but with one condition. You can only choose one of these two answers.
Answer to: I wish you well
Answer B: I don’t wish you well.
1. You are my friend. There have been a thousand moments when you have made me happy. Therefore __________________________________
2. You are my enemy. There have been a thousand moments when you have made me UNHAPPY. Therefore _____________________________
If you have answered A and B, respectively, then your answer is the most normal. It is the answer that the vast majority would choose. It is the most anticipated answer, but not the most accurate.
The correct one is this:
You are my friend and therefore … I wish you well. You are my enemy and therefore … I wish you well.
Sounds weird to you?
Yes? Do this. Change the words “friend / foe” to “human.” Sound weird to you now?
If you are not a psychopath, your answer is probably “no, now it does not sound strange to me.” But then what has changed? Well what before in your mind there were two groups, the group of the glorifiable and the group of the demonizable. And after this exercise, now there is only one: the group of people.
Your friend is not more human than your enemy, and the consequence of this is that as human beings that both are, they deserve not only our respects, but also our good wishes. The paradox of this principle is that when we wish someone well, the luckiest person is not the one who receives those good wishes, but the one who gives them.
It could be said that The 88 Steps of Happy People It is like a gym manual, not to train your muscles, but to train your habits. And the habit that I would like you to train with this Step is to give a gift to every living being you come across. But there is a rule. You have to put a greater emphasis the greater the damage that that living being has wanted to cause you.
And what is the gift? Money? Favors? Hugs?
No. It is much simpler. The answer is: the previous 11 letters, pronounced repeatedly as if it were a mantra.
Whoever it is, whatever you like, whatever offends you offends you, whatever angers you makes you angry, train the habit of thinking about it, saying it and feeling it: “I wish you well.” You don’t have to say it out loud. Just repeat it in your mind until you end up feeling it, and don’t stop until you end up wanting it. Really want it. Uncomplainingly. You don’t even have to do it out of altruism. Remember that of the two, the one who benefits the most is you. So do it out of sheer selfishness (the good guy). By wishing him well, you’re doing yourself a favor.
If you would grant me that developing the habit of massaging yourself is good for your body or that breathing fresh air is good for your lungs, grant that developing the habit of giving “11-letter gifts” to everyone you come across is good for everyone. your soul.
Do you remember the Step that spoke of the importance of promoting unconditional love for people? This is one way to train him.
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