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Step 22: “The ego is a poison and it is a temptation to drink it”
The 88 rungs of happy people
Sandra is the owner of a clothing store. Inés, her childhood friend, has just received the news that her sister is getting married, and she needs to find the perfect dress to wear. She is characterized by being an indecisive and insecure woman, who often finds it difficult to find clothes that convince her and with which she feels comfortable. One day she sees a dress in a magazine and, despite being somewhat expensive, she compulsively asks her friend for a favor to get it for her, of course with a commitment to buy it for her.
Sandra agrees to Inés’s request and moves heaven and earth to find just that dress. After several hours of searching, calls and emails, Sandra is finally able to find him and place the order.
One day before the dress arrives at the store, Inés walks past a shop window and falls in love with one that she finds suitable. You buy it and cancel your previous commitment. Sandra, who had already made the payment, desperately calls the manufacturer with the intention of returning it, but he tells her that it is not possible. Go into a rage.
“How can you do this to me?” We have been friends since childhood. I had two of my employees looking for your dress all afternoon, I did the money disbursement, I lost the option to get it back and you have the nerve to buy it from the competition. You have made me lose money. You sure have deliberately. I’m sorry to tell you this, but you’re not a good person.
“Sandra, don’t say that.” I just saw it and bought it. I was not aware that you had already made a payment. How can you think that I did it to piss you off? I’m really sorry.
“Are you sorry?” You know what I tell you? Enjoy your cheap dress and do not come back to me ask for more favors never again.
Years later, while talking to her husband, he asked Sandra about Inés: “As long as she doesn’t ask for forgiveness, I won’t speak to her again,” Sandra responds resentfully.
Pay attention to the conclusion of this story. It is devastating.
Every time you choose to hold a grudge (“As long as you don’t ask me for forgiveness”) … you get pleasure.
Every time you want to punish someone (“I will not speak to him again”) … you get pleasure.
Every time you choose the victimhood (“How can you do this to me?”)… You get a pleasure.
Every time you blame someone (“You did it premeditated”)… you get pleasure.
Every time you make a reproach (“And you have the nerve to buy it from the competition”) … you get pleasure.
Every time you accuse (“You made me lose money”) … you get pleasure.
Every time you make a judgment (“You are not a good person”) … you get pleasure.
Every time you speak to be right and take it away from the other, you say things with anger, you give wings to your anger, you reject another human being, you withdraw love … you get pleasure.
Is hidden ego pleasure.
It is a joy, a taste. Feeling angry gives pleasure.
Filling yourself with reason gives pleasure. Feeding reasons not to forgive gives pleasure. Keeping a grudge alive gives pleasure. Punishing gives pleasure. Staying in pride and not giving your arm to twist gives pleasure. That pleasure is the only food the ego feeds on, and therefore it is the only thing that keeps it alive. It is a poison and it is a temptation to drink it, but when you don’t, when you have the strength to give it up, you cut off the food and suffocate the ego.
@Angel
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