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Step 16: Maximum effort to provoke future improvements and maximum understanding to accept past situations
The 88 rungs of happy people
In this chapter of “The 88 steps of happy people” I explain the solution to the dilemma you have in your life
Now that you have read the PhD Rung (two more back)…: which level is better?, That of a 1st grader for a 1st grader or that of a 4th grader for a 4th grader ?
Answer: none is better. They are exactly as correct. Remember that simile because it will come in handy for you every day for the rest of your life. It is the magic formula so much to feel understanding towards yourself when you meet people who have a height (interior) greater than yours, as towards those who are less. With it you can neutralize the desire to judge yourself and to judge others, since it is the formula that breaks hierarchies. Both the 4th level for a 4th grader and the 1st level for a 1st grader are… perfectly perfect. What if a 4th grader acts like a 1st grader? So it was not 4th, but 1st.
It is the eve of Christmas day. You have been reading The 88 Steps of Happy People for several weeks, and as a result, you have been detecting your ego and fighting it for almost a month. All the grandchildren, children, nephews and nephews arrive at your parents’ house and everything is taking shape for the family Christmas Eve dinner. When the first course has barely been served, your brother-in-law throws a malicious dart at you in front of everyone. Your ego asks you to return it with the harshest phrase you can think of and satisfy your desire to be above. You feel a small internal war between your essence, which reminds you of everything you have read, and your ego, which asks you for revenge. This war happens in milliseconds, and your ego eventually wins. You don’t control your frustration and you end up yelling and verbally assaulting your brother-in-law. Everyone is shocked, and it doesn’t take you a second to regret what you just did. You feel that the whole family’s Christmas dinner has just been ruined, you run away to your bedroom, and you notice that your greatest suffering does not even come from there, but from all the subsequent dejection and the feeling so great of guilt that your ego gives you. instills. “I’m terrible,” you reproach yourself. «It is illusory for me to dream of an internal height greater than the one I have. Failure again and again ”, are the words of your inner voice (of course directed by your ego). But suddenly you remember this Step and have an internal conversation with yourself that allows you to reach the conclusion on your own. “Waiting. If my inner height were a school, what grade would it be in? In 5th grade, ”you answer. “And how is the level of a 5th grader compared to 5th grade?” You think for a few seconds. And your own response allows you to accept yourself, forgive yourself and feel a peace that is worth gold: perfectly perfect.
How was your behavior that day? Totally, absolutely and perfectly correlated with your inner Belt. Someday, when you transcend your current height and reach the height of a higher Inner Belt, you will look back, remember your “Christmas demeanor” and not even blame it on your face. You will only smile and say to yourself: «Poor … It was my self from a few years ago, which I also acted from ignorance». And you will tell yourself almost with the same tenderness with which you see the baby who burned the house because he did not know the danger of playing with fire. That is compassionate love that allows us not to point the finger at ourselves in a condemnatory way, or to point the finger at others. We all have a behavior that with respect to our evolutionary level is … Perfectly perfect.
I know you are dying to ask the typical question:
“Anxo, are you saying that when someone chooses the path of destruction then they have to sit idly by and even encourage it?”
Of course not. All acts can be classified as against life or for. Yelling or calling names is against it. Containing an insult works in your favor. And nothing in this book encourages the former. This is the solution to the dilemma that you (and many more) have: Maximum effort to cause future improvements. Maximum understanding to accept past situations.
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@Angel