Spiritual openness makes us interesting. Those who talk a lot about themselves rarely turn out to be interesting interlocutors for us: if we talk about ourselves, then briefly, vividly or sincerely openly.
The easiest method is not to invent anything, but to be more open and talk about what is in your soul, calling a spade a spade. For example, if you want to get to know someone, and feeling fear, excitement, you can start with this: “I am constrained and embarrassed to approach you. My name is…».
Psychologist Marik Khazin says
About 6 years ago, my eldest son was on a walk with the class. Then he was 14 years old. He walked along the seashore all night with a girl of his age, whom he really liked, and felt incredibly cramped.
The next day he told me about it and asked what can be done in such situations.
I listened to him carefully, asked in detail about his feelings and thoughts during those very difficult moments for him, and then advised him to simply describe what is. For example, when he was sitting with her on a rolling pin, and he wanted to hug her, but he burned with shame, it was possible to describe all this to her:
“I’ve been sitting and for 3 hours now I want to hug you, but at the mere thought that you can reject me, push me away, I burn with shame, not finding words to express myself.”
«And it’s all? So simple?» he wondered.
«It’s even easier if you don’t invent anything.»
He is already 20, and since then he has not been lost in situations with new acquaintances. Moreover, many of his friends, both girls and boys, he repeatedly opened this magical tool of success, and they, using it, thanked him.