Soft and hard, female and male support

Indeed, soft support is more common, it is more often given by people with the character of Dushka.

​​​​​​​​​​​​​​However, other support is also quite common, support is tough, when demands are heard in the words of support, a strong motivational text sounds

Watch the video: «I want 12 steps, Lace!», and you get not sympathy, but a magic pendel.

The roar of the stands at the stadium — «Spartak is the champion!» — this is also support, but energizing support, rigid support.

Hard support is from the arsenal of the Siloviki, and this is more often male support, just like soft support is more often female support.

Male and female support

Male support — distract from feelings, switch to action. Yes, more often it is tough and business-like support.

Male support is usually appropriate in a situation where it is possible to do something, fix something. Male support is more often given to men, men are more inclined to it.

Women’s support — sympathy (to be in a feeling nearby), talk and share feelings. More often it is really soft and emotional support.

Women’s support is more appropriate in a situation where it is not clear what to do, when actions are meaningless. Female support is more often provided to women, women are more inclined to it.

However, it should be borne in mind that men usually always think that something can always be done (even when it is not), and women are more likely to give up when it is still possible to fight. Modern psychotherapy more often implements the female version of support and is cautious about the male approach. See →

Lena was upset

History from life. Lena saved up money and bought herself headphones by ordering them on the Internet. She looks — and there is another connector, these headphones do not fit her phone. She was very upset, did not burst into tears, but quarreled at the world and at herself. Mom suggested that she still calm down, so not to worry and think about whether it is possible to solder the plug. That is: “You can worry, but not so much and not for so long. I was worried — turn on your head. The decision of the pope was different, namely: “Lena, attention: you can’t upset yourself. Stop doing it, come to your senses. You need to resolve the issue. How? You can come up with it yourself, you can contact us. Is there any clarity? These are three instructions. The first is the prohibition against harming one’s own condition. The second is the obligation to turn on the head. The third is an instruction to contact parents when they cannot find the best solution. In summary: we do not reassure, but give instructions and control the execution.

Male and female in different fields

Masculine and feminine — not as a sex, but as a gender — clearly manifests itself in a variety of areas. There is a male and female style in science, men and women have different views on personality, personal growth and development, they have different needs for love, men and women have different attitudes towards treatment… See →