If children grow up and huddle in flocks, remaining children at heart, this becomes a socially dangerous phenomenon.
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Children grow up correctly when they are supported by both maternal-feminine and paternal-male principles in education (see →). Today in Russian society there is a clear bias towards the feminine and, as a result, infantilism.
The government does not really know which of the citizens it wants to raise, and does not set clear goals. The population has no ideals and does not really believe that they can do anything. Religion also does not perform a male educational function, while there is money, the TV works, the war does not bother, you can relax and have fun.
Power in the family is lost by men — see →
Reasonable caution turns into cowardly fears: “Oh, stress!”, “Oh, psychotrauma!”, And the boys grow up without understanding that life is demanding and tough.
Children are brought up more and more in an atmosphere of unconditional love and acceptance, which is wonderful in itself, but without paternal exactingness next to it turns into promiscuity and permissiveness. The words discipline, coercion and control have become abusive, only motivation, support for the child and faith in him are allowed.
And the more children shake the situation, the more parents feel that they have not given their children love and support!
In which case, both children and parents go to psychotherapists, many of whom tend to focus even more on unconditional love and the need for acceptance … See →
So what to do?
Remove distortions, restore the harmony of the male and female principles. Specifically, agree that:
- love is not equal to unconditional acceptance and necessarily includes reasonable exactingness,
- education includes not only passion and conversation, but also deliberate coercion,
- life is not only pleasant, but also tough, there is always loss, death and war. And to be ready for this is natural and necessary.
- a psychologist is not always a sweetheart and a sweetheart, but, when necessary, a tough Silovik.
Only when we agree with this, together we will be able to build a world in which there is no war, there is a lot of sun and people love each other.