Slaps on the pope

Slapping on the buttocks can hardly be called physical punishment. Hitting the buttocks is one thing, spanking the buttocks is quite another. A slap on the pope for a child is not a punishment, not real pain, but only information, an intelligible signal that the parents are very unhappy with him. Light slaps on the pope is the tool that nature gave parents to shape the behavior of young individuals: look for any animals — monkeys, cats, bears.

Constant spanking, interspersed with beatings on the pope, then on the back of the head is not very effective, and not humane. An indicator of neglect of the situation and pedagogical weakness of parents. Or parents do not like children, or they love, but they do not know how to educate.

Game, involvement, distraction, explanation, indirect suggestions and direct suggestions, the situation of natural, positive reinforcements is the natural background of proper education, and spanking is like a magic pendel to come to your senses in a pinch.

Sometimes it’s better to slap than methodically push mentally. A slight slap for a child is not pain, but only a signal that helps to stop the child’s energy and make it possible to hear the words of the parent. Unlike screaming, when I really «burp» negative emotions, a slap brings the child to life.

When and to whom it is useful

A spank is needed just when the child has an impulse (almost any child once threw tantrums, but the parent does not have time (and sometimes strength). This is when you need to stop the child for a moment. Sometimes the child changes his mind and comes to his senses from a spank .

When words fail, a slap is a well-understood signal to the baby that he is doing something wrong. See Negative Reinforcement

Slaps are better done and easier to understand for kinesthetic learners. Spanking digital and for digital is an incomprehensible and ineffective thing.

A slap is either an impulsive reaction, or the last argument in the case when you have already tried the other methods. This is not a method of education. This is not a mandatory measure, shown for regular use. Slap is like an antibiotic. In the case when the harm from the medicine is less than the danger to health — it is possible. But no one will regularly feed antibiotics …

Method

Recommendations for an Experiential Personality

If you sometimes spank your baby, don’t worry about it: you know you love him anyway. And he, even if he cries after that, still loves you. When children say something hurtful, it does not mean at all that they really think so.

If you hold yourself back for a long time, then it only gets worse. You should not accumulate irritation in yourself, endure, exhort to no avail and then flog in a serious way, when your nerves give out.

Do not accumulate anger in yourself: if the child indulges, allow yourself to spank him immediately, but easily, not painfully. Spanking (not strong) should immediately follow the wrong actions: this is not the best, but quite a reasonable method of education.

Recommendations for an active person

If you decide to use light flip flops, it is better to teach your baby to flip flops. Start making it fun by playing, among other games, with your child.

When a child begins to mess around and does not want to obey, a light guiding or correcting slap should go along with the correct (hard and warm) parental word (a smart person with an iron hand in a velvet glove). In time, one Word will suffice, spanking will no longer be needed.

When the child grows up a little (around the age of 2), it is worth discussing spanking with him and agreeing: “I don’t spank you without warning. I warn you first that if you don’t stop, I’ll slap you. And if you don’t stop, then I can spank, including hurting.

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If after 7 years you have to spank your child on the pope, you have already missed something important. This is already educational impotence.