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Six mantras to regain control of your emotional state
Psychology
Mónica García, personal and professional leadership coach, invites in her book ‘Emotional Power’ to embrace negative feelings so that they are a life saver, rather than a last one avoid them being a drag, turning them into life savers
The feeling of joy It can be something momentary, that as it comes it goes, unlike other more unpleasant emotions that get stuck in us and in which we stay for hours, days or even months. Thus, the moments of happiness They are not only brief but are associated with a particular type of circumstance so that sometimes we condition them to something happening, something to end or to achieve something concrete. «The search for these sensations can generate a continued frustration if we are always on the hunt for the positive and ignore the value that what we consider negative brings. And that attitude also prevents us from managing our emotions correctly ”, reveals Mónica García, personal and professional leadership coach and author of the book ‘Emotional Power’.
The author, who in her book explains how to take care of our emotional state so as not to leave it in the hands of circumstances or others, assures that we must learn to surf for emotions through the ups and downs that we feel so as not to let them pull us off the (mental) surfboard and to prevent them from becoming permanent sensations.
“When we consider emotions as a problem, judge ourselves for being wrong or we make ourselves the goal of always being well and happy, we forget what it means to be human since feeling everything is a fundamental and vital part of the human experience,” he says. Monica Garcia.
If the pandemic it is for more intensely what it is to be with ourselves. It may not have been the easiest or the only company that we would have liked to have, but 2020 was the year in which we have socialized the least with others and more with ourselves. And one of the consequences of what has happened is that we have not been able to escape from our emotions and in many cases we have seen that our emotional state worsened without knowing what to do or even without being able to do anything about it.
And it is that, pushed by the ideal that fictional stories draw and in a society where we are very involved in magnifying the good and hiding the bad under the rug, it is easy for us to reach adulthood without being able to understand and manage all the emotions we feel throughout the day.
The mental health data in the face of the pandemic are enlightening: we have spent more time than ever alone with our thoughts and this has inevitably led to an increase in therapeutic appointments. What Mónica García proposes in her book ‘Emotional Power’ is to embrace all that internal tangle as the first step to untangle it, at the same time that we try to strengthen the relationship with oneself by creating greater inner peace and harmony. His recommendation, therefore, is to heed the wake-up call of our emotions, which are only signals that warn us and are not a problem in themselves.
These can be, according to the author, six mantras that help to give us back control of our emotional state and allow us to live with greater security and confidence:
six powerful mantras
- 1. Emotion is energy that I generate with my attitude, thoughts and behaviors.
- 2. Everything happens, not for something, but for something: the conscious expansion of my being.
- 3. In each situation, I can always choose an answer or action that makes me feel the most pride and personal satisfaction.
- 4. Emotion, like pain, is a signal, not the problem. And serving her puts me in command.
- 5. In every moment, if I am open to receive, I will have everything I need.
- 6. I deserve all the best that life has to offer.
These beliefs will be the place from where each person can see themselves and life to awaken in the feelings they want. «You can try some of the ones I have shared here or you can try others mantras that may be useful to us. The important thing is that, by experimenting with them, you believe them as if they were true and move inside. If they don’t allow you to experience the emotion you want, then they are not for you », concludes Mónica.