A man will never give a woman the pleasure that she could experience if she openly told him about her desires. We understand what ideas are guided by men in bed, wanting to please a woman, and find out which of them are more myths than truth.
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Misconception 1
If a man has a large enough penis/strong erection, a woman is able to experience a vaginal orgasm.
It is true. Only 15% of women can achieve orgasm through vaginal penetration alone. And even those who experience a vaginal orgasm are capable of it thanks to the active foreplay and stimulation of all erogenous zones, the most important of which is the clitoris. It is this part of the woman’s body, and not the vagina, that most sensitively responds to caresses and leads to orgasm.
Misconception 2
If a man’s erection lasts for hours, it will give a woman special pleasure.
It is true. Contrary to what men are led to believe by pornographic images, this is not the case. If at first the frictions give a pleasant sensation, then with prolonged stimulation of the vagina, the woman gradually loses the natural secretion of the genital organs, and due to lack of moisture, the further process may be uncomfortable. Eight minutes is considered the most optimal time for sexual intercourse.
Misconception 3
Rapid and active stimulation of the clitoris will lead to orgasm.
It is true. It is important for women first of all to wake up the imagination, not the body. For this, flirting, conversations, gentle touches are important to them. Then many need a stage of body arousal, when they are naked and enjoy the caresses and kisses of a partner. And only after a while they are able to experience the pleasure of clitoral stimulation.
What should be the partner’s touch in this case – circular, light touches or slightly more active pressure – depends on the individual characteristics of the woman, who may need different types of stimulation during intercourse. It may be that the partner really enjoys the intense stimulation of the clitoris (often before the onset of orgasm), but the only way for a man to know for sure is to hear it from her.
Misconception 4
Women are frustrated by the premature ejaculation of men.
It is true.It is not the quick orgasm of a partner that disappoints a woman, but his attitude. Often this upsets the man so much that he withdraws from further sexual contact, forgetting that there are other ways to please his partner. If he continued to stay in touch emotionally and physically, then the rapid loss of an erection would not play a big role for a woman.
Misconception 5
Good lovers know how to please a woman without asking her about it.
It is true.Everything is exactly the opposite. It is those who are interested in what caresses give a woman the greatest pleasure that turn out to be excellent lovers. The sensitivity and responsiveness of the genital organs to stimulation depends on the cycle, time of day, health and mood of the woman.
A man will not be able to find out for himself exactly how his new partner is able to enjoy, and no, even very rich experience, will not help him. Only the ability of a woman to speak openly about her preferences is the key to harmonious sexual relations.
Misconception 6
Most women love anal sex, they just haven’t tried it and therefore don’t know about it.
It is true.This type of sex is loved by about 2%. Women know exactly whether they want it or not.
About the Expert: Laurie Watson is a sexologist and author of How to Regain Desire and Heal a Sex Lost Marriage.