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Signs that your partner is about to break up
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If the relationship is good, the bonds are strengthened after the rest days. But when there is a conflict between the two, the rest period can reopen wounds and reactivate the conflicts that for the rest of the year were buried by lack of time, overwork and the intense pace of day to day. This statement, which could seem like a value judgment or a phrase based on topics and “common places”, is supported, according to Verónica Rodríguez Orellana, director of the Coaching Club, by an important increased queries related to relationship problems after the Christmas holidays. The reason for this increase is that after living together in a more intense way during the rest period, many couples experience more disappointments and misunderstandings than they want to enjoy and take advantage of their time together.
However, before issuing a “death certificate” for our relationship, the expert advises asking ourselves, first of all, what is the immediate purpose of the death certificate for us. love. «To grow as a person? To make a journey together? To feel accompanied and accompany the other? To feel loved and to be able to love? Perhaps with these questions some answers can arise? », Suggests Rodríguez-Orellana. Of course, after analyzing what these questions have provoked in us, the therapist invites us to identify some of the signs that could indicate that we are in conditions of end a romantic relationship and they have to do with emotional distance.
The relationship is in jeopardy if …
- You feel that your travel companion no longer has the motivation or the desire to share with you
- The usual calls begin to space
- Reply to messages days later even if they have been seen
- Their opinions begin to be a slab in your projects
- You do not show initiatives to share intimacy and complicity
- Only one of you takes the reins of the situation
- You feel that you have to stick to a script that has nothing to do with your essence
- You realize that they can’t give you what they don’t have simply because it’s over
But in addition to attending to these negative signs, the expert also indicates to be receptive to other types of signs, which are those that indicate that it is possible give yourself a chance as a couple. These have to do, above all, with mutual rapprochement and the sincere desire to try again.
You can give yourself a chance if …
- Motivation, interest appear and you begin to perceive some change in the love horizon
- Good mood returns to routine
- There is no perceived physical distance, intimacy increases and hugs are always available
- On the street they see and live as a couple
- Initiatives and plans return
- You take each other into account when making plans and you are part of your respective priorities
- Leisure themes are felt as something shared
- You resume the importance of counting on the other and you value their presence
Of course, when these signs appear, it must be taken into account that if the change were so easy we would do it when and how we wanted and that the process of true reconciliation is related to sincere communication, according to the director of the Coaching Club. Thus, each member of the couple should express how they have felt and how they would like to follow that process, in addition to answering these questions in private: What things have made me fall in love with my partner? What issues do I need to change from Now? What kind of learning can I do after an initial crisis? How do I imagine myself from now on? Would I choose this person again? «If all these answers lead to a Yes, I do! it will be the best sign that the time has come to meet again and give yourself a chance, “he proposes.