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Hello! Aristocratic appearance is the cause of controversy among many people, and more precisely, sociologists. Until now, sometimes you have to prove your belonging to some noble family, despite the fact that all the signs are there. And today we will try to figure it out, but by what characteristics can you determine whether you are a descendant of some famous nobles, or not?
What is this definition?
Aristocracy is not just appearance, but also a way of thinking, a type of behavior. No matter how sophisticated the girl is, if she behaves vulgarly and attracts too much attention not at all with her beauty, but with the manners of a market trader, no one will admit the idea that “blue blood” flows in her veins.
Olga Muravieva wrote an excellent book, How a Russian Nobleman Was Raised. It sets out the basic principles and norms that the nobles were required to follow, respectively.
So, very revealing in it is the story of one descendant of a noble family. Having visited the camp of the geological expedition, he was surprised by the uncleanliness of the people who lived there. But instead of walking around and wincing in disgust, he began to clean the toilet on his own, showing the others that one should not be afraid of dirty work. It is much worse to live in such conditions and not change them.
This is the essence of aristocracy. It does not matter what state a person has, and even being broke, it is necessary to remain a person, maintaining dignity and honor.
Appearance
I would like to emphasize that appearance is not always noble. Often, representatives of the nobility look quite ordinary. And this is at best. Do you know why? Therefore, in order to preserve the «pure blood», or, as it is also called «blue», marriages were made between relatives. The result of which were children with disabilities and deformities.
So the characteristics of appearance, its main features in the ideal version, are as follows:
- Hair. They can be absolutely any color, which is especially pleasing to women who periodically want to make changes to their image and color them. The only thing is that they must be well-groomed, healthy and shiny. Preferably beautifully styled, as loose strands can get tangled, and this does not look aesthetically pleasing.
- Eyelashes and eyebrows are dark, even in blondes. Even better if it’s black.
- The forehead is straight, high.
- The nose is even, small. A small hump is allowed.
- The chin is narrow, in some cases sharp.
- The eyes are large or at least medium in size. Color, as in the case of hair, does not play a special role.
- The shape of the face is oblong.
- The figure is graceful, evoking associations with a crystal vase. Even if there is excess weight, it still seems refined. No rough or wrong proportions.
- The bed of the nail is neat, almond-shaped.
- The skin is light, translucent or with a slight pinkish tint. No tan. There is also a lack of acne and inflammation. It is always clean, velvety, evoking a desire to touch.
- Feet are not large. Even men have tiny, neat feet.
Basic behavioral characteristics
Posture
Such a person will always keep his back straight. And under no circumstances will he allow himself to slouch. Even if she has to work as a cleaner, she will carry out her task with a posture that the queen herself would envy.
Smoothness of movement
No sudden movements, rude gestures, active facial expressions and loud laughter. An aristocrat knows how to present himself in order to arouse admiration and respect.
Accuracy
Clothing is an auxiliary means of forming an image, by no means a key one. Let it be not very expensive, but clean, elegant, emphasizing style. The emphasis should be on the personality, the mind, and not the exposed parts of the body.
Shoes for aristocrats are mostly classic. There are always accessories, ties, cufflinks, watches, neckerchiefs and jewelry. Only in moderation, thoughtfully.
Speech
Like everyone else, he experiences negative feelings. But never allow cursing. And even if they provoke a conflict, such a person will remain calm so that in no case will he “fall on his face in the dirt” and not say too much.
He does not raise his tone, does not use barbs, avoids idle chatter and gossip. Fortitude and upbringing allow you to defend yourself and your dignity without aggression and violence.
Vocabulary can only be envied, and all thanks to erudition and the desire for self-development.
Respect
It applies equally to representatives of the highest nobility, and to a simple worker. He does not focus only on his own person, but knows how to notice others and pay attention to them. Therefore, it is always pleasant to communicate with him and I want to meet as often as possible.
Self-concept
Appreciate and love yourself. He has a sense of his own dignity, thanks to which he will not allow anyone to treat him badly, just as he himself will never offend the weak and needy. Raising self-esteem at the expense of others is not at all his style. If only because there is no need for this, she is quite healthy, not overestimated and not underestimated.
Personal space
Does not cause inconvenience by violation of personal boundaries. Starting with the fact that he will not be familiar and switch to “you” without agreeing with the interlocutor in advance. And ending with keeping your distance.
Circle of friends
Prefer quality over quantity. They surround themselves with educated, purposeful and comprehensively developed people. They also tend to create useful connections that may well come in handy in the future.
Self improvement
Strive for both physical and moral, spiritual development. Do not allow yourself to degrade or just stand still.
Bastards
Bastards are illegitimate children. History has many cases when children were born from noble people in power on the side, outside of marriage, consecrated by the church. Some of them were recognized, received the throne, inheritance, the right to command the country, the troops.
For example, the English king William I the Conqueror, the only but illegitimate son of Robert the Devil. Or the English Queen Elizabeth I, whose father was Henry VIII. But most were not so lucky, they were persecuted even in their own circles.
In addition to an unexpected outbreak of passion or love for ordinary peasants, the reason for the appearance of bastards is, so to speak, a change in genetics.
Excessive pallor, although it was considered a sign of aristocracy, in fact, most often was the cause of some kind of disease, general weakness. Wishing to strengthen the health of future descendants, noble people entered into relationships with people of lower origin. Which were distinguished by the strength of the body, diligence, activity and endurance.
Completion
In addition to developing the necessary skills for decent behavior in society, pass on the knowledge to your children, if you have them. Self-esteem, sociability and good manners will be valued at all times and will never lose their relevance. Teach them, and maybe yourself, how to properly manage finances, plan activities and resolve conflicts peacefully.
Good luck and accomplishments!
The material was prepared by a psychologist, Gestalt therapist, Zhuravina Alina