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Sick topics are topics, the recollection and discussion of which gives rise to pain in the soul and spoils a person’s mood.
As a rule, a sore subject is associated with an anchored emotion. Each of us has our own sore topics.
How to discuss sensitive topics?
If the topic is personal and concerns only one person, then it can be closed for discussion without explanation. As a rule, you should not allow someone who does it without purpose and inaccurately to touch their sore topics. If someone brings you into a discussion about a topic that hurts you, you can simply say, “I don’t want to discuss this. It’s my personal».
If in the family some topic is common, then, according to the Family Constitution, it cannot be closed for constructive discussion. To say in such cases: “I don’t want to talk about it, my mood deteriorates” is unlawful, since this infringes on the rights of the other side and provokes an increase in pain.
However, we do not raise difficult, unpleasant and painful topics “just like that”, “by the way”. With regard to respected and beloved people, this is prohibited. Reproaches and accusations without a construct are prohibited. We raise sensitive issues only on the case and only for constructive discussion.
Sore topics and the Rule of Positive and Negative in discussion
In healthy relationships between close people, someone’s “thumping” is normal and useful. He drank, spoke out — felt better. However, if the covey of one offends the sore subject of the other, then the result will not be relief, but a new disassembly and quarrel. Therefore, for security reasons, baying must be limited: “You can’t bay on sore topics.” And when, why and how you can get drunk — see →
How to make sick topics not sick?
See Dealing with Heartache