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Sexual coldness is a disorder of the sex drive characterized by: impaired or unpleasant sexual intercourse, or decreased or absent sexual desire and arousal. Both of these types of disorders are not separate phenomena, but closely overlap.
Sexual coldness – anorgasmia
Another group of disorders are climax disorders, that is, the ability to experience an orgasm. Anorgasm it is defined as the inability of a woman to achieve orgasm despite the existence of a sexual need. The ability to experience orgasm can be impaired to varying degrees. Due to the enormous variety of human personalities, women sometimes have minimal sexual needs (they do not want or even avoid sexual intercourse), which may give rise to a diagnosis of sexual frigidity. However, those women who are finally induced into intercourse have the ability to achieve orgasm and experience it.
It is very important to distinguish between sexual frigidity disorders occurring on a clearly disease background from disorders related to factors of external origin (peace, trust, personal culture, sense of security, attraction to a partner).
Where does sexual coldness come from?
We also meet sexual coldness in the case of improper sexual selection of partnerswhen the “style of sexual experience” (the entirety of a man’s sexual feelings and behavior) does not satisfy a woman’s needs, thus becoming a brake on her feelings. In this case, despite the occurrence of disorders of sexual feelings, we are also dealing with a problem that may be related to sexual psychology.
Finally, the alleged sexual coldness of a woman can be encountered when, after a long period of living together with a man, as a result of habit and many other various factors, there is a complete lack of interest in a partner. We then deal with the so-called relative sexual frigiditywhich – being the cause of many life and marital difficulties – is not a pathology, as it is in a sense a physiological phenomenon as a result of the formation, course and regression of emotional and sexual involvement. It is also only necessarily associated with sexual coldness, which is a set of symptoms of very different value for individual women, which they do not feel as clearly as men, in whom such deficiencies cause sexual dysfunction and the inability to have sexual intercourse.
Many women who are sexually frigid accept this fact and even find it contentment and some kind of balance in the overall relationship with the opposite sex. Women with an anxious disposition easily give up sexual intercourse, which can provide a lot of satisfaction, but can also cause a lot of unpleasantness, disappointment, and disappointment. There are also people who, until a certain time, e.g. until marriage, mask the lack of sexual needs with moral, religious or cultural dictates, or the existence of organic ailments related to a real bodily disease (but not impairing sexual feelings). After getting married, they become fully aware of the lack of sexual feelings that can have a huge impact on the overall relationship in marriage.
Reaching orgasm is not the same as having intercourse. Women who describe their sex life as giving them pleasure and satisfaction are primarily emotionally attached to their partner. On the other hand, women who climax during intercourse, but do not feel full satisfaction and contentment, evaluate both the relationship and the overall sexual relationship with their partner as unsatisfactory due to the damaged emotional ties between them. Occasionally, especially in nervous women, a fear or guilt reaction may appear after orgasm.
The above considerations indicate that the assessment of sexual intercourse cannot be guided only by the presence or absence of specific disorders (e.g. orgasm), but the entire partnership system should be assessed with individual and very diverse experiences in personal life.
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