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The New Year is coming soon, which means it’s corporate time. In many companies this year they will be held face-to-face. Communication with colleagues in an informal setting can be a pleasant pastime. But it can also have sad consequences … We asked a sexologist if it was worth turning an evening with colleagues into “something more”. And what to do if you couldn’t resist flirting.
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“After the corporate party, we no longer parted”
There are two polar views on romantic relationships with colleagues. Some believe that personal and professional should not be mixed: flies and cutlets should be separate. And others are sure that it is at work that you can get to know a person best.
Those who are not against love relationships with colleagues believe that this is the best way to get acquainted: “Where else to communicate, if not in the office, we spend most of our lives there.”
What determines what opinion a person holds? Here are a few key factors:
- his personal boundaries;
- the ability to switch from one sphere to another;
- context of the work situation.
Christina, 27 years old
“I believe that a corporate party is simply created in order to get to know someone you have liked for a long time. My romantic story began just at the New Year’s corporate party, however, in the “distant dock-like times”, four years ago.
I liked the head of the neighboring department, Vadim. But I did not dare to approach and talk to him. And at a party for employees, we looked into each other’s eyes for the first time, danced our first “slow dance”, and then decided to continue the evening at my house. Since that day they have not parted.”
Sexologist’s comment:
The informal atmosphere of a corporate party allows you to relieve work stress, create conditions conducive to easy communication. If we are talking about communication with a colleague whom you have sympathized with for a long time, then a corporate party is a great chance to start your romantic story. And there you look – and it will turn out to build a strong couple.
“I feel like a traitor involuntarily”
It is quite another matter when an extra drunk glass of alcohol acted in an unexpected way. As they say, “Ostap suffered” … and your evening ended in the bed of a colleague. And at home, a wife or husband cuts off your phone …
Maxim, 38 years old
“I never thought that I might have a mistress. And when friends talked about their adventures, he only smiled and hid his eyes. And after the celebration of the New Year in the office, I also have something to “boast”, but for some reason I don’t feel like it.
At the corporate party, the atmosphere of celebration and fun dragged on, and after the fireworks, Vika and I decided to retire to the next office … The outbreak of passion passed as suddenly as it began, and now I feel nothing but shame. I feel like a traitor involuntarily and I hope that my wife does not find out about my New Year’s adventure.
I justify myself to myself only by the fact that I was drunk. On the other hand, I see that my colleague Vika is waiting for the continuation of our relationship.”
Sexologist’s comment:
Often cheating “by pure chance” occurs with those partners who tend to overly control each other. For example, a formidable wife follows her husband’s every step, looks at his geolocation, sends several dozen SMS a day. From such vigilant control “do not hide and do not hide.” And in a company, a man wants to be an alpha male, and in this situation it’s quite easy to go too far.
As you know, the best treatment is prevention. Therefore, if you know yourself as a reliable person after a certain dose of alcohol, it is better not to drink at all. In this case, it would be better to stay at home or invite your spouse to go to the corporate party together.
But even if you are a flint man, no one has canceled spontaneous betrayal. One way or another, mixing intimate life and work is by no means always the right decision.
What to think about on the eve of the noisy New Year holidays?
- Keep a clear head, you will need it. Always think before you do something.
- Drink alcohol in moderation.
- Weigh the possible consequences of your impulsive behavior. The corporate is not a place for total emancipation.
And let sex bring you only joy and pleasure, enriching your life with pleasant emotions.
About the expert:
Elena Malakhova – Sexologist, psychotherapist, psychiatrist, clinical psychologist, full member of the Professional Association of Sexologists, lecturer at the International Academy of Sexology, author of the books The Right to Sex, Psychoanalysis of Sexual Fantasies. Her .