Sexo Slow sex
In fast-paced times in which everything seems to be running late, when we count the minutes and seconds left until the next subway arrives and stop with the car to be fed through the window with fast food, the ‘slow’ is gaining whole from the slow cooking to slow sex. It is a current that leads us to pay attention to the details, to savor every moment, to enjoy the road and not just the destination. Introducing slow forces you to put aside the automatic pilot mode and stop at the ritual of having sex.
Slow sex allows you to become aware of yourself and the other. Halfway between the perception we have of sex in the West and tantric sex of the Eastern tradition. The western perception of sex It has been based on penetration and in recent times on immediacy in speed, a combination that leads to the most absolute routine, if not to discouragement and even lack of appetite. Especially in the case of women who, according to studies, need between 10 and 20 minutes to be aroused enough for climax.
When we talk about tantric sex, the first thing we might think about is delaying ejaculation. However, slow sex is not based on that, but on connect deeply, in discovering each gesture, in enjoying the looks. A kind of conscious meditation on sex in which every moment is thoroughly savored.
Of course, there are no rules beyond those established by the couple themselves, but there are guidelines that help promote full arousal and, of course, the agenda has to be free of commitments and mobile phones away to avoid distractions. There must be absolute willingness to spend time together without looking at the clock. Getting carried away by the initial excitement and the usual fast rhythms will break the magic, so it must be a conscious decision of the couple to stop the penetration for a while, change position and look into each other’s eyes. Delicacy, not cornyness, is essential for leisurely sex.
Can help you
– Look at each other and discover the small details of every inch of skin
– Steady breaths
– Massages with aromatic oils and creams
– Create a dimly lit environment where you can see that it is warm and intimate
– Prepare the place together including details such as an aroma, a massage oil, a light
– Cuddle for a while
– Everything that turns sex into a ritual of happiness and pleasure
Benefits
- Removing the focus of the penetration removes the pressure on him and her by ceasing to be aware of the moment of climax
- Taking time and stopping allows for a greater variety of postures
- Facilitates discovering new pleasures and the ability to excite the different parts of the body
- All the senses intervene more acutely