Women’s sexual fantasies — what are they talking about? We chose the most characteristic scenes and asked the sexologist Irina Panyukova to clarify their meaning.
Fantasies, like dreams, give us clues to female sexuality. Much of what women dream about is easy to implement in reality, but the main value of fantasies is to develop erotic imagination.
Outdoors
Women tend to feel the manifestation of the general laws of the universe in bodily excitement. Proximity in nature brings us back to the pristine essence of the relationship between two, allows us to feel a special unity with a partner and merging with the world. Hence the fantasy of a cosmic orgasm that allows us to transcend our human boundaries.
In a public place
This may manifest a desire for extreme experiences, violation of prohibitions, or a desire to overcome boredom and monotony in real relationships. Danger leads to increased excitement and makes the sensations especially memorable. This situation brings the woman back to her youth, when desire overwhelmed her unexpectedly and sex took place in “inappropriate” places and conditions.
With a woman
This may indicate a thirst for caresses, since women are more inclined to be interested in what will bring pleasure to their partner, caress each other for a long time and very gently. Yes, and it is often easier to open your desire to another woman than to a man.
Threesome
Sex with two men means the boundlessness of female desire. It is difficult to stimulate all female erogenous zones at the same time, so two men are twice as much pleasure. Or she may have such different desires that one man is not able to satisfy them.
Cunnilingus
In this scene there is, of course, the desire to dominate the partner and the excitement caused by the violation of the taboo. Oral sex, which involves taste, touch and smell, is a sign of a woman’s maximum openness, her trust in her partner. Dreaming of cunnilingus, a woman dreams of an altruistic man who can give her pleasure and enjoy it.
Fake rape
Hard sex, dominance of a man over a woman, group sex help a woman experience acute arousal in the role of an “object”. This is a way to strengthen in her feminine, «passive» role: violence removes from a woman the responsibility for the pleasure she experiences and frees her from feelings of guilt.
Blindfolded
The most important thing here is to let your imagination run wild. You can fully focus on the sensations, think up the details, or feel a familiar situation as new, unusual. The blindfold imitates a dream situation, and therefore relaxation comes faster, your own appearance is not important, it is easier to imagine an ideal partner.