We often tend to associate love and sex. But are sexual pleasure and couple necessarily inseparable? Is it possible to have fun with someone you are not in love with? The answer in a few points.

When we are in love, our feelings and our feelings are not the same. We tend to experience our emotions in an intense way, and to enjoy what we feel more fully. And this also applies for sex. Thus, an orgasm associated with feeling in love is likely to be more intense, due to the combination of emotions. Several parameters are added to this: when you are in love, you know you are loved and wanted. This increases our self-confidence, and allows us to be more comfortable when we have sex. Likewise, our desire is associated with the love we have for our partner. Thus, pleasing the other sexually pleases us too, and the enjoyment is only increased tenfold.

Sex practiced within the framework of a couple relationship therefore has several significant advantages. First, the intimacy of a romantic relationship allows you to feel at ease, to dare to talk about your desires, your fantasies or on the contrary your doubts or fears. When you are in love, you feel confident with your partner. Thus, it seems logical that this ground is conducive to better sexual relations than if one does not share the life of his partner. Within your relationship, dialogue is freed, and you can more easily experience new experiences, express your fantasies to the other, or ask him to test certain sexual practices or positions.

As we have seen, when you are in a relationship, you generally feel more comfortable. And this proximity has other advantages. Indeed, a long-standing relationship allows you to get to know your partner better, his body and his desires. And it is easier to make a person reach orgasm when you know your body well and how it reacts. Thus, you have more chance of succeeding in making your partner come to orgasm than a stranger: you already know which positions to adopt, where to direct your caresses, what rhythm to adopt, how to kiss, etc. This knowledge of the other, their desires and their body can help you guide your partner towards climax faster than with someone you are less used to having relationships with.

Yet some people don’t feel the need to have feelings for their partner in order to be sexually satisfied. You can absolutely enjoy sex without being in love. This is the case with “sex friends” for example, as we call those people who are friends on a daily basis, but who sleep together from time to time. Here, the two partners share a complicity and an intimacy due to their friendship, but are not strictly speaking in love. The important thing is to feel good, to be at ease and to feel desire for the other! This type of relationship, more free and freed from feelings, can allow you to feel more independent, and to let go for a night, or more.

As we have seen, love and feelings are not inseparable. For some, sex isn’t necessarily better when done as a couple. And for good reason: each person is different, and sexual desire is not built in the same way for everyone. If the couple provides a framework of trust and reassuring intimacy for some, others will take more pleasure in single-character relationships, or with people they don’t know or know little about. Likewise, being in love does not necessarily mean being in a relationship. The important thing is to feel comfortable with your partner, to be able to express your pleasure and to find the type of relationship that suits you.