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Sex after childbirth: how can you do it? Video
One of the questions that worries spouses after the birth of a child is when it is possible to start an intimate relationship. Moreover, this question is by no means unfounded. It only seems that as soon as a woman has given birth, you can instantly return to your old life. However, from the point of view of doctors, this is a very erroneous opinion. And there are very, very many reasons for this.
The decision about when and how to start having sex after childbirth is made individually for each couple. Indeed, often a woman’s libido disappears due to the restructuring of the body for lactation. In addition, young parents begin to suffer from sleep deprivation in the early days of caring for a baby. And, of course, there are a number of medical indicators, according to which you need to withstand a certain period of time before resuming a married intimate life.
When can you have sex after childbirth?
Gynecologists recommend that you wait 6-8 weeks after giving birth before you can have sex. This is due to the fact that this is how much the female body is restored, the uterus returns to its previous size, natural postpartum discharge ends.
Also, during this period, a woman gets used to a new role, the level of hormones begins to stabilize, and she again begins to feel attractive and desirable.
Doctors say that it is impossible to make love during this period also because the woman’s uterus after childbirth is a large wound that takes time to tighten.
If you rush and start sex immediately, there is a risk of infection. And, as a result, a long treatment and rehabilitation begins.
And also, according to the reviews of women who tried to start having sex after childbirth earlier than the recommended time, this is a rather painful process. The feeling of pain during sex is connected with the fact that a woman simply does not have enough lubrication. And this happens even if she has a desire.
Of course, many couples ignore medical advice. But it is still better to withstand the recommended abstinence period.
If you decide not to listen to doctors and started having sex immediately after childbirth, remember that all positions should be carefully selected, and the movements are as gentle and affectionate as possible.
Sex positions after childbirth
Also, doctors recommend choosing the right postures to avoid discomfort and achieve maximum pleasure. For positions that can be used for sex after childbirth, the characters are those in which you can control the process: depth, frequency and speed of penetration. The friction force goes into the background in this situation. In addition, the emphasis must necessarily be placed on stimulating the woman’s clitoris and working with the G-spot.
Some of the main postpartum sex positions include:
- rider
- on the side
- missionary, etc.
In the “woman on top” position, the young mother is easiest to control the process, as a result of which she herself chooses the speed, frequency and depth of penetration that is comfortable for herself.
To do this, the woman sits down facing the man with her knees bent. If you really want to further stimulate the G-spot, you just have to move the pelvis forward a little. Thanks to this, the penis will slightly come out of the vagina, while the pelvis will press on it, as a result of which it will rest against the notorious female pleasure zone.
Alternatively, you can not sit on the man, but lie on him, but at the same time be on top. In this case, the load is more distributed on the arms and legs.
When having sex in a lateral position, the process is more affectionate and gentle. This is due to the fact that due to lying on the side, the penetration of the penis is shallow, which, of course, will not cause much discomfort to the lady.
This position is not recommended for couples in which a man has a member more than 15 cm in length. Such a shallow can not penetrate, as a result, a woman will feel pain
To be guaranteed to get an orgasm in this position, the woman needs to throw one leg over the man, in this situation the stimulation of the G-spot will be stronger.
The missionary position is often described as the standard position. The woman lies on her back, the man is on top. In this position, all responsibility for the process falls on the man, it is he who controls the number of movements and their quality. Experts say that you can slightly correct this by wrapping your legs around his hips. In addition, it is very easy to rotate in this position, which also contributes to the achievement of a sense of pleasure.
Other positions, when it is assumed that the man will be on top, are possible, but nevertheless, at first, it is better to try to avoid them. This is due to the fact that at the time of ejaculation, he can involuntarily make movements that will hurt a woman.
Liberated couples should think about giving up anal sex for a while, so as not to harm the health of the woman who has just given birth.
What You Can Face When Having Sex After Childbirth
Having sex after childbirth, you can face a number of unpleasant sensations, which in most cases are completely natural. So, for example, if a young mother is in pain, this may be due to the presence of stitches in the perineum. Moreover, in this situation, painful sensations can last up to 4-6 months after childbirth.
Another unpleasant surprise for spouses who decided to have sex for the first time after giving birth is the lack of lubrication and vaginal dryness. Naturally, in this case, we are not talking about special pleasure, because the friction force is large enough and microtrauma of the vagina may even appear. You should be prepared for the fact that such a situation can last until the restoration of the menstrual cycle (this can occur in a month, and in a year or two after childbirth). You should not despair, it is enough just to buy a product that replaces natural lubricant at a pharmacy or a specialized store.
The only thing to consider is that the lubricant must be of very high quality. After all, the body of a woman who gave birth is highly susceptible to various infections, including those that are transmitted through the genital tract.
Another nuisance is bloody discharge. Blood during sex after childbirth signals that you are in a hurry and have resumed your sex life early. Doctors recommend having the first sexual intercourse after childbirth only after the lochia is over. It is worth considering the fact that spotting during sex after childbirth is natural only for 8 weeks. If this happens later, the body may be sending you a signal that a serious illness is beginning.
In such a matter as the resumption of sexual activity after childbirth, there should be no rush. Be sure to discuss all the points with your partner. Men, on the other hand, should be real gentlemen in this situation and think first of all about the woman, and not about their pleasure. Moreover, sex with precautions is a temporary measure, a little later everything will definitely be restored and will return to its previous level.
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