Self-sufficiency is not for everyone. There are many people of different ages who are quite content to be dependent on others, who are used to it and who have their own benefits from it.
Self-sufficiency is the theme of young people and girls, the theme of youth, when there are many forces and plans and you finally want to live your own life, stop obeying your parents and other adults, live separately and independently. But there is already a premonition that you have to pay for this — with responsibility for yourself and your life, with the readiness to solve all your life problems yourself. If you are scared, you can call it the fear of being alone.
The craving for self-sufficiency, the roots of interest in self-sufficiency are in the fear of loneliness, when you cannot do without others, when it is scary to imagine yourself without others. And then you want self-sufficiency, so that you do not need anyone.
However, the fear of loneliness can also have other roots: it can be the habit of becoming attached and the inability to get rid of it, the habit of being afraid of everything and the habit of complaining about your problems … One way or another, it is really difficult for a person with a fear of loneliness to be self-sufficient, he depends on others — and that is why he (or more often she) so wants to become self-sufficient.
However, the fear of loneliness is not familiar to everyone. If a young man or girl from an early age lived in the author’s position and with a positive attitude, they did not suffer from any fears, especially the fear of loneliness. For those who have not suffered or no longer suffer from the fear of loneliness, who are not afraid to be alone or alone — these young people are more interested in independence, and not self-sufficiency.