Self skills: how to become the best version of yourself

Skills are usually divided into hard and soft, but in fact this is not a complete set. Specialists also identify deeper skills – self skills. About what it is and why we need it – in the Trends material

Hard, soft, self

Let’s define the concepts. Hard skills, or hard skills, are specific skills that we use in our professional activities: for example, knowledge of a foreign language, the ability to use 1C, programming. Soft skills, or flexible skills, are skills that are not related to a specific job, but help to do it effectively: the ability to communicate and negotiate, creativity, planning, decision making.

Both hard and soft skills are outward-oriented: they help you do your own thing and interact with other people. But the basis for their competent development is a deep understanding of oneself – desires, emotions, goals, needs. These are self skills. We can say that this is a “self-digging skill” – in a good sense of the word; the ability to understand and develop oneself, to take care of oneself.

What is included in self skills

Self skills include many skills that can be divided into several groups.

Three Ways to Develop Self Skills

In a global sense, we develop self skills throughout our lives. By communicating with people, facing new challenges, we learn to better understand ourselves and take care of ourselves. The effect can be enhanced if you develop the right skills consciously: understand which ones you need the most, choose tools, identify milestones, and track progress. Here are three ways to purposefully develop self skills.

  • Books, lectures, blogs

Many materials on the development of personal skills can be found in the public domain. Blogs by psychologists and coaches, video lectures, and publications in the media (such as this article you are reading) will help you get a general picture of self skills, understand what is sagging in you and what you would like to work on. Books usually help to do the primary work: to get acquainted with the methods, to try them, to solve simple problems. Thinking, exploring different ideas and possibilities, and keeping a diary will also be useful.

  • Individual work with a specialist

Deep problems and complex tasks associated with improving self skills may require the help of specialists. Many skills are difficult for us to evaluate objectively, “blind spots” prevent us from seeing what we are doing wrong. In this case, it helps to work with a mentor – a mentor, coach, psychologist or just a person who can give honest feedback and useful advice, share experience.

  • Courses and trainings

Group work is another way to develop self skills. Group members help to see problems from the outside, support and throw up new ideas. Because of this, we can move faster than alone and work through our difficulties in depth. If there are professional curators and mentors in the group, the work becomes even more effective. The MIF publishing house has chosen several courses that will help you improve your self-skills.

emotional courage

An immersive course-game that helps develop the skill of emotional regulation: learn to be aware of emotions, see the triggers that cause them, understand what dictates your individual reactions. Students will analyze five groups of emotions (anger, fear, disgust, sadness, joy) in order to learn how to understand themselves in these states and manage them. Among the experts of the course are psychologists, psychotherapists, coaches.

Practices of resource states

A course of four meetings with coach Yulia Tertyshna, 35 years of meditation practice. It will help you find contact with yourself and gain access to internal resources. It will be useful for those who acutely feel anxiety, fear, who have difficulty experiencing the instability of the outside world. At the meetings, the coach will give practical tools for taking care of yourself.

Internal supports

Recording of a webinar by Viktor Shiryaev, teacher of mindfulness practices and modern meditation. The expert tells how to learn to rely on yourself and become more resilient even in times of high uncertainty.

be with you

One of the main self-skills is the ability to understand your own needs, resources and limitations. This course will help you get to know your true self, get rid of false beliefs and limiting attitudes in order to pave the way for goals and dreams.

How to support yourself

Recording of a webinar with Yulia Tertyshnaya on how to reduce anxiety, anxiety and fear, reduce stress and strengthen internal stability.

Burnout

The feeling of fatigue, apathy, hopelessness is a companion of many of us. But this is not the norm, but a condition with which we can cope. The course will help you see the causes and symptoms of burnout, understand what depends on us and what depends on the environment, and develop effective strategies for dealing with burnout.

self care course

A healthy lifestyle is not exhausting workouts and strict diets, but the ability to understand what your body needs. The course will help you build an individual schedule of work, training, sleep and nutrition that is right for you. Experts will tell you how to improve your well-being carefully, without strain. The course is based on more than 140 scientific publications and books, the latest WHO recommendations and advice from doctors.

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