Gosha is appreciated for his golden hands, and for the fact that he is such a person. Gosha is not the most socially successful, but socially fulfilled person.
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Self-realization is the realization of the existing potential, the realization of one’s existing desires, one’s knowledge, skills and abilities, one’s current ideas about oneself and one’s path in life.
Self-realization is often used as a synonym for self-actualization, which is inaccurate. With self-realization, what is present, today’s, already existing is realized, while with self-actualization, the potential, the future is actualized. Self-actualization is the unfolding of personal potential, the growth and development of a person’s personality, which occurs as a result of the natural unfolding in him of what is inherent in him by nature.
Conversation prof. N.I. Kozlov and psychologist M.K. Smirnova about androgynes and female self-realization. sept. 2010
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That is, I do what I want and know how to do in life, at the same time people respect it and pay me for it (with any resources: money, time, warmth, etc. Further). Self-realization is to find your love and your business, to realize yourself in children and in creativity. For different people and at different ages, their own version of self-realization is important: there is a realization of oneself as a man and as a woman, as a scientist and as a father; social realization differs from creative realization. To realize oneself in all areas at once is not a very realistic task, but quite successful options are known here.
Social (self-)realization, social fulfillment is not the same as social success (that is, high positions, big money, flashing in the media). Social self-realization is the achievement of social success such and as much as I personally want, and not by the objective standards of society. In particular, I work where I make the most of my opportunities, skills, and so on.
A wonderful example of a socially realized person is Goga from Moscow Does Not Believe in Tears. He works as a simple mechanic, but at the same time he is in his place (remember: “I owe my doctorate to him”?).
If a person is striving for social success, he can do more in life, including more can do for people. If a person is striving for social self-realization, he is more often satisfied and happy in life. Nevertheless, there is no reason to oppose social success and social self-realization: it is quite possible to become both a very successful and quite happy person at the same time.
Female self-realization is the realization by a woman of her female potential, namely, to find her love, to take place as a wife and mother, to take care of her parents. A woman can feel that she is in demand, making a successful career and entertaining herself with trips for u.u., but if a woman has no relatives and loved ones, no beloved children (her own or adopted), she almost always has the feeling that she has realized herself not completely. This is the right feeling. Is it necessary for a woman to seek her fulfillment in the family, to seek herself in business or creativity? No, there is no such obligation, each woman can decide this issue on her own.
Successful self-realization is laid down by the right childhood. If the parents gave the child good examples, brought up the author’s position in the child, the ability to cope with obstacles and think about their future, this child, growing up, will become a successful person who has fully realized himself.
Many psychotherapists are convinced that all that is needed for the full self-realization of the personality is to remove the obstacles that block the life path of their patients. Unfortunately, this is a delusion: without appropriate social models and the help of parents, a child will not turn into a full-fledged adult.
Irvin Yalom, in The Gift of Psychotherapy, writes:
The most useful book (I read it as a student) for me was Karen Horney’s Neurosis and Human Development. And the most useful idea I found in this book was that every human being has a genetic propensity for self-actualization. If obstacles are removed, Horney believes, the personality will develop into a mature, fully realized adult, just like an acorn becomes an oak tree.
“Just like an acorn becomes an oak…” What a miraculously liberating and clarifying image! This position forever changed my approach to psychotherapy, gave me a new vision of my work: my task is to remove the obstacles that block the life path of my patients. I didn’t have to do all the work; I didn’t have to inspire the patient to grow, to inspire him with curiosity, will, lust for life, caring, loyalty, or the myriad other characteristics that make us truly alive. Not at all. The only thing I have to do is to identify and remove obstacles. Everything else, stimulated by the self-actualizing forces within the patient, would follow automatically.