One of the most important indicators of the level of personality development is the ability to manage oneself. Managing himself, a person gets out of control of the environment, and then a person is a person who has his own, lives in his own way. The less a person can control himself, the easier he is controlled by others and circumstances, becomes like everyone else, merges with the mass. The higher a person has developed the ability to control himself and his environment, the more we can talk about the presence of a personality.
Few of us completely, always and perfectly control ourselves, and it is not obvious that such perfection is necessary for everyone. Self-management is only one of our tasks, it must be solved to a sufficient extent, but it is not obvious that it should push aside all our other tasks: do homework, cook breakfast, earn money. Everything has its time and place.
Nevertheless, among the tasks of self-improvement, self-management is one of the main tasks and the task is very voluminous. Self-management is the management of your state, your desires and emotions, your plans and your behavior, the ability to organize and motivate yourself.
Where there is no control
Self-management ends when it is not a person who controls his state, but the state controls it, when a person is so possessed by emotions that he cannot control himself.
A person does not control himself when, having set a task, he is distracted and led to any of his internal impulses, when a momentary desire or temptation takes possession of him, forcing him to forget about what he has outlined for himself.
A person does not control himself when he thoughtlessly follows someone, when he is controlled by someone else: parents, friends, whose requests and instructions he fulfills without deliberation and often to the detriment of his own plans.
When you are not in control of yourself, someone else is in control of you. When you are not in control of yourself, some events or processes control you, you flow in some process, and the more this happens, the less you are. A person who has not learned to control himself is not yet a person. A person who has ceased to control himself ceases to be both a person and a person.