Selective Adjustment and Reinforcement of Desired Behavior
By adjusting, you not only build relationships, but also reinforce your partner’s behavior.
As a rule, against the background of ordinary outbuildings, it makes sense to tune out those details and behaviors that do not suit the partner himself or you would not like to reinforce with the partner.
Obviously, it is enough conflict to copy in the behavior of a partner features that he himself is not enthusiastic about or that others laugh at, for example, a speech filled with garbage like specifically, like his, well, damn it …
Similarly, if your partner is poorly brought up, behaves cheekily, keeps defiantly, and his speech is full of conflictogens, then copying his mannerisms, even very softened, will be a very controversial extension to him: did you want to snout? To repeat the energy of his movements and voice is good, to behave more freely is reasonable, to speak with him in his language is justified, but copying his aggressiveness (or, in another case, stiffness) usually makes no sense either in speech or in behavior.
However, in some situation, when your positions are strong, and your partner is obviously “carrying”, you can start talking to him in his own rhythm and with his own overtones, but with accentuated politeness. Or with the exact repetition of intonations and vocabulary, but twice as slow …