Moans, sighs, kisses and a special sound of connecting bodies … Does it make sense to supplement this music of love with words?
Silence in bed
This, sexologists are sure, is not the best aphrodisiac. Although too thin walls or open windows can make neighbors involuntary witnesses of our passion, it is still not worth constantly sacrificing your pleasure for the sake of their peace of mind. Sigh and moan, let your partner know that his desire to please you has not gone unnoticed! “It is also useful for the woman herself,” says sexologist Irina Panyukova. — Moan — exhalation with the participation of the voice, it relieves tension and muscle clamps, which increases the susceptibility to caresses. And the cry, being in itself a strong physical action, enhances the intensity of other experiences. Psychophysiologists discovered the phenomenon of synesthesia, the mutual influence of sensations. For example, when a person hears a loud bang, their ability to distinguish colors from a distance increases.” If partners simultaneously utter a groan or a cry of delight, a special feeling of unity is born between them.
Obscenity
They excite … but not always and not everyone. “It is important that the lovers have a common vocabulary of love,” explains Irina Panyukova. “However, it takes time to compose it. Words that are understood by two from a half hint, expressions that they endowed with a special erotic overtones, this secret language turns partners into gentle accomplices, delivering incomparable pleasure. Rude words and swearing in bed can also increase arousal. But those who are not used to them, they can scare. And therefore, for a start, it is better to pronounce them carefully, maybe in a whisper, sensitively following the reaction of the partner. It is important that love communication is not limited to bed. Imagine how a harsh phrase will affect a woman who never hears kind words from her man.
Tenderness
A COMMON MOAN OR CRY OF RELATION CREATES A SPECIAL FEELING OF UNITY IN THE TWO.
It is not necessary to say the sacramental formula «I love you.» There are other ways to express your joy: «I feel good with you», «it’s so nice when you’re around.» There are no superfluous and praises of appearance. “Even assuming that we are completely confident in our attractiveness, it is nice to receive confirmation of it from the person who is with us now,” the sexologist agrees. It is generally accepted that men like it when a woman sings of the virtues of their “manhood”. If you can’t admire the size without cunning, you can find other words: powerful, mighty, strong … Supplement at your own discretion.
Questions
But not all talking in bed is helpful. Do not ask too many questions: “Are you feeling so good? And so? Did you have an orgasm? They testify to the uncertainty that can be transmitted to the partner: he will begin to engage in “self-diagnosis”, instead of completely surrendering to pleasure. Also, sexologists recommend avoiding remarks like the one in the old joke — a man wakes up from a whisper: “Darling, we’ll put the nightstand in that corner!” If we want to maintain a loving mood, it is better to have conversations on everyday topics only outside the bedroom.
To an even greater extent, this applies to the clarification of relationships. “In our minds, we involuntarily associate a place with the events that take place there,” reminds Irina Panyukova. — Quarrels and just unpleasant thoughts deprive the bed of romanticism. You can discuss bosses, relatives, plans for the summer and everything that is not related to what is happening between partners at this very moment, at another time and in another place. And leave the bed for caresses, games, exciting words and mutual admiration.