More and more young people leave school each year without a diploma or qualification. School has become unsuitable and completely unbearable for them. Learning to spot the signs and reacting quickly is one way to remedy them.

The majority of these are boys who sometimes drop out of school at the age of 16, that is to say just after the compulsory schooling age, but the profiles are multiple. Some encounter problems with authority (school or parental) and therefore exhibit unacceptable behavior at school, which quickly puts them in opposition to the school system and teachers.

Others do not feel comfortable in the classroom and lose interest in different courses and school programs. They then gradually drop out and let themselves “sink” until they can no longer catch up. Finally, difficulties at home and in their daily life outside the school sphere sometimes lead to learning difficulties as well as phobias that are very difficult to overcome for these young pupils.

It is essential to be attentive to the good results of your child, to their consistency, and to his behavior at school. From the first bad grades and repeated and unjustified absences of the teenager, parents must react. Without necessarily punishing him from the first absence, you have to take things in hand and not minimize the situation. The child must then understand that “skipping school” is not an option.

If he complains very frequently of stomach aches or headaches when mentioning a class or an assignment and these complaints disappear on weekends and during school holidays, it is necessary to discuss with him to understand and ensure that this discomfort disappears.

Aggression and a systematic opposition to the parental figure on school matters are also warning signs of problems at school. Finally, taking drugs or spending too much time in front of video games can also encourage this type of problem. By opening the dialogue and trying to understand what prompts them to do so, parents can identify the problem and stop it early on.

School is sometimes badly perceived by children or adolescents who have failed at school. Fundamental subjects seem boring and uninteresting to him, while cultural and artistic courses seem superfluous to him. It is then up to parents to revalue the educational content, whether educational or cultural. No subject should be devalued and young people should be encouraged to become more involved regardless of the course concerned.

The teachers he encounters must also be supported by the parental couple. It is the student who must get more involved and change things. The teacher should not be held responsible for the child’s dropping out of school.

Another very important point, the school issue must not become central in family life. It is essential to respect downtime, play times and moments of sharing between adults and children even if the school situation is worrying. By putting too much pressure on the child, the effects could be even more devastating and create a real school phobia.

For children in real pain or living with a school phobia, psychological help can be provided. For the others, an external accompaniment can be envisaged to allow them to recover the bases and to resume a normal rhythm. Regarding home lessons, opinions are divided. On the one hand, the child relearns at his own pace which is rather positive, but on the other hand, he is even more isolated and unsociable.

To help the pupil out of this bad phase, structures exist to offer him strict and clear support. Here, everything begins with the establishment of a rhythm and schedules to be respected without delay. The lessons are then organized in a more benevolent way and without a system of marks which can be badly experienced by the child. A precise project is defined with the young person but also with his parents who are just as involved as their child. In short, the general climate of the class is more positive and encourages the student to surpass himself and overcome his blockages. The subjects are sometimes decompartmentalized to encourage him to understand and seek information.

Dropping out of school is not inevitable. There are now many devices to help students in difficulty and their families to help them hang up. With personalized support and a lot of patience, children can resume a normal school rhythm and even obtain a diploma.