Today, all talk about love seems suspect. Each “I love you” can be suspicious, as the word “Love” covers very different realities … Should we understand love as a state of passion, a promise, a landmark, a request?

The “I love you” can be compared to a proof of love, but love is neither acquired nor a possession. In reality, there is no proof of love: you can never be sure that it is really there. One can always wonder if other motives are not at work behind this strong statement but how much common.

We are also wary of “I love you” under embrace when making love: ” when the flesh exults, it promises to all winds “. Sometimes, however, it is the right time to come out of his shyness and slip him into the tumult of the senses without fear of ridicule or rejection.

We pronounce it with a vengeance, but when it comes to taking a few minutes to define it, nothing works. It is a reflection that does not fail to recall moments in life when we thought we were in love, being loved or both. It invites us to remember past moments of happiness, looks, scents, sounds, desires … Perhaps, moreover, it is impossible to define love other than by these fleeting moments or by having recourse to l art, literature, photography, cinema that capture him so well …

In reality, the “I love you” can be understood as a prayer, a contract, a debt.

It induces a question: ” And you, do you love me? “. In this, he acts as a synchronizer: if the partner answers yes, he loves him too, the two lovers are still in phase.

In any case, it does not tolerate adverbs: we don’t like a little, nor a lot, we simply like.

It can be used as an all-purpose formula, helping to streamline exchanges, such as a placebo, which does good to the one who pronounces it and no harm to the one who receives it, or as a torment, when you do not want to be abandoned to your fate. 

When we receive a “I love you”, we don’t learn much except the essential: at the moment T, we still love you.

Lovers are like the police on the trail of a crime: they need clear signs, but in fact they can’t really trust any of them.

They manage to observe details that no one notices: the slightest silence, too much hesitation, a suspicious tone of voice plunges them into uncertainty. What if the love isn’t really there anymore? Lovers suffer from a “panic of interpretation” and spend their time deciphering the other. The “I love you” are therefore means of appeasing and reassuring the partner.

The adverb always does not have the same meaning as that which is familiar to us. In reality, the speaker of such a sentence acts as if he is going to love forever, even though it is not in his power to control the variation in his feelings. “The man of my life”, “the woman of my life”… Yes, but it is one life among many others that we go through today during our long existence. 

Whoever loves someone for their beauty, does he really love him? No, because certain illnesses or accidents, which will kill beauty without killing the person, will cause him to no longer love it.

The one who loves someone for his judgment, his memory, does he really love him? No, because everyone can lose these qualities without losing themselves.

For Blaise Pascal who wonders about the ego, “ we never love […] anyone, but only qualities ». Car, « how to love the body or the soul, if not for its qualities, which are not what makes the ego, since they are perishable? In other words, we never love anyone for themselves but only for what they show, we never love in the other person other than the object that appears.

Moreover, after the phase of idealization, the other is often discovered as a stranger, in his “non-resemblance to the initial project conceived for him and in the impossible assimilation to the latter”: ” I took you for love, but you are quite different, I do not recognize you, I who thought I knew you … “Or” Who are you, after all that I thought I had known for 10 years, 20 years, 30 years and that I am now discovering completely different… ” are formulas often heard by Danielle Bastien, psychotherapist for couples. 

Albanais: I love you

Algerian: N ‘brik

Everyone: I love you

English: I love you

Armenian: Yes Kez Sirumem

Basque: I love you

Bosniaque: I love you

Breton: Yes, we are

Catalan: I love you

Mandarin Chinese: Wo ai ni

Korean: Sarang Heyo

Corsica: I love you

Danois: I Love You

English: I love you

English: I love you

Féroïen: I love teg

Flamand : I love you

French: Jpre t’aime

Greek: S’agapo

Hawaïen: I love him very much

Hollandais : I love you

Irish: I love you

Italien: I love you

Lebanese: Bahibak

Marocain : Ana moajaba bik

Polonais: I love you

English : I love you / I love you

Romanian: I love you

Russe: Ya tebya liubliu

Sioux : Techihhila

Suédois: I love you

English: I love you

Zoulou: I like it

• The support of the gaze
• Listening attentively
• The squeeze of your hand
• The smile after a kiss
• Discussions around projects
• ” I will always be there for you “
• ” You changed my life “
• ” I need you “

Based on a survey designed for the site eHarmony, men wait an average of 88 days before saying “I love you” to their partner.

Women would take an average of nearly 134 days.

About 40% of men say “I love you” as soon as the first month.

Amazing statistic: 77% of men say they remember the first time they said “I love you”. 

“We formed a couple, because we loved each other, we come to see you because we no longer understand how we do to love each other… we love each other too much, badly, or not much…” extracted from the article by Danielle Bastien, “A little, a lot, madly, no longer at all”, Cahiers de psychologie clinique, 2/2002 (n ° 19), p. 107-118.

« I love you is without nuances. It removes explanations, adjustments, degrees, scruples. » Roland Barthes

« I love you – this is the most mysterious word there is, the only one worth commenting on for centuries. » Christian Bobin

« I love you not only for who you are but for who I am when we’re together. » Roy Croft

« We never love each other like in the stories, naked and forever. Loving yourself is constantly fighting against thousands of hidden forces that come from you or from the world. ” Jean Anouilh

« There are people who are so full of themselves that when they are in love, they find a way to take care of themselves without being taken care of by the person they love. ” La Rochefoucauld.