Changes await us in the coming year. But we treat them differently: someone rejoices at the new, and someone resists it. That is why in the year of the Ox it is necessary to learn to hear loved ones and find a middle ground.
Major changes are always a test for a relationship. Someone accepts them with joy, while someone experiences stress and fear. Tension rises, conflicts occur. And if we care about those who are close to us, we will have to learn to live together in a new reality.
Time for balance and balance
In the new year, “master-subordinate” relationships are a thing of the past. Changes are noticeable not only in business, but also in the family.
However, not everyone accepts such changes. Some of us are afraid of losing our authority, do not want to allow a partner to become independent or simply equal. Despite the fact that it is this family model that allows both partners to show their unique qualities, to be together not because it is profitable, but because they want to.
The Taoist tradition also speaks of the combination of male and female. The Taoists have the concept of “De” – balance, when there are feminine traits inside a man, and masculine traits inside a woman, and they are in balance, allowing us to be self-sufficient.
Families that are ready to discuss and build relationships outside of outdated frames and stereotypes will become even stronger. Whereas those who fail to adapt, conflicts await. During the transition period, you will have to show wisdom, accept and understand that we are all different, but equal.
Learn to breathe and speak
In the Chinese tradition, the Ox is a kind and sensitive being to everything divine. According to legend, when the Buddha called all the animals to him, it was the Bull who responded first and called the rest. Therefore, in the year of the Ox, it is especially important to be attentive to breathing, the most subtle and spiritual process in our body.
And since, among other things, breathing helps us to speak with each other, in the new year we should monitor the accuracy of words, learn to express ourselves, put more kindness and warmth into what we say. It is through the word that we can show that we accept the other, how we value and love him.
If you still find it difficult to come to terms with change, if you are angry, annoyed, looking for the guilty, try to apply three tricks that will help reduce the intensity of emotions if the passions between you and your loved ones are heating up:
- Remember that we are all different and that the period of change affected each in its own way. Don’t try to measure everyone with the same yardstick.
- If you still had a fight with loved ones, stop, step aside: breathe and wait.
- Think about whether there is something kind, warm, that you can say to another. Perhaps words spoken with love will help to make peace or prevent squabbles.
These simple rules will be especially relevant in the new year. Our ability to support, share the light that is inside, and say something kind will become an invaluable skill during times of change.