Sadism can take many different, sometimes frightening faces. A sadist is a person who is highly aggressive and destructive. Sadism can manifest itself as a sexual disorder where you feel sexual arousal when inflicting physical and mental pain on your partner, such as hitting or humiliating him or her. The opposite (or complement to) of sadism is masochism, that is, getting sexual pleasure from being humiliated and beaten. The term sadism and sadist comes from the name of the Marquis de Sade, the author of a novel about sexual perversions and cruelty, who lived at the turn of the XNUMXth and XNUMXth centuries.
The causes of sadism
According to the Austrian psychologist Sigmund Freud sadism is a bipolar disorder that exhibits internal contradiction. From Sady at the same time, he strives to destroy the object of his feelings (through cruel behavior) and to preserve it (by trying to control it and make it dependent on himself).
Causes There can be many such contradictory aspirations and cruel treatment of a loved one. These can be, for example, mental disorders, personality disorders, delusions, childhood traumatic experiences (for example, witnessing violence between parents, being a victim of violence or sexual harassment), low self-esteem and the desire to self-esteem by demeaning another person. Sadism they can cause complexes, low self-esteem, watching movies, including pornographic films, in which sexual behavior is combined with violence against a partner, failures in the erotic and emotional sphere, and the desire to “take revenge”, and relieve humiliation on a sexual partner. Cause sadism there may also be improper upbringing.
Characteristics of a sadist
From Sady is a person with a strong tendency to aggression and destruction. He seeks to exercise control over his victim, both in the realm physicalAnd mental. From the point of view of psychology, especially psychoanalysis, from sad is a person with an excessively large and bloated superego. The basic aspiration of such a man is to defend his own “territory” (including the appropriation of persons he considers to belong to that territory, that is, to it) and his own “I”. Sadism is one of the 8 major sexual deviations distinguished in the DSM-V (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of mental Disorders) classification. By some psychologists sadism is seen as a pathological intensification of male character traits, i.e. aggression, domination, tendency to tyranny and the desire to have full control, while masochism is defined as the intensification of female characteristics, such as gentleness and submission.
Types of sadism
The following types are distinguished sadism:
- Passive sadism – this kind of sadist consciously refuses to meet the expectations of a partner during a rapprochement, leaving him / her unsatisfied and with a feeling of disappointment and discomfort.
- Psychological sadism – a psychological sadist humiliates, ridicules and ridicules a partner, often in the presence of other people. He can also get erotic pleasure from making his partner cry.
- Aggressive sadism – the aggressor sadist humiliates, tyrannizes, and physically and mentally torments his victim, may use sophisticated forms of physical abuse, deriving sexual satisfaction from it. The extreme form of this kind of sadism is the so-called lust murder.
- Fantasy sadism – The fantastical sadist imagines tormenting the object of his feelings while masturbating. He may also imagine violence against his partner during the sexual act, but he does not implement his fantasies, that is, he does not bully his partner in fact.
- Zoosadism – This type of sadist derives sexual pleasure from torturing animals.
Methods of treating sadism
Sadism is a disorder that must and can be treated. The most effective form treatment in case of sadysty is cognitive behavioral therapy. However, where sadism does not take unacceptable forms and both partners derive sexual pleasure from the behavior of the character sadistic, basically there is no basis to take treatment. The basic condition is that both partners act consciously and know the boundaries that should not be exceeded. Where from sad he has no control over his inclinations and causes real pain to the victim, psychotherapy is necessary.