Marvelous in its denseness Internet meme: «When you sacrifice yourself, you begin to love yourself less.»
Friends, people do not know how not to love themselves!
Selfishness — selfishness — is an instinct sewn into us tightly!
We never begin to love ourselves less. Otherwise — having stopped loving ourselves — we would not feel like a victim. They would sit under the plinth and not blather. But it’s not like that! We are outraged, and how!
We begin to feel like a victim and a sufferer because our act did not bring us the desired result.
I repeat once again: the act did not bring the desired result. And we invested, plowed. And what we did was stupid. We suffer…
Yes, it is difficult for us to admit that we are stupid, it is easier to admit that we do not know how to love, especially since the Internet advises.
And in general — it’s so beautiful …
And to be a fool or a fool is ugly. But you know, friends, it is more effective and more beautiful for an accurate vision of reality and for mastering new strategies of influence — to see the FACT.
And it is most effective to recognize this FACT when you know how not only to label yourself and sprinkle ashes on your head, but you know how to reveal the essence of some phenomenon: “Instead, I acted like a fool, it will be better and clearer — I did not correlate my actions with the result !»
The error is fixed and honestly disclosed. Fine!
And a recommendation to myself for the future: “I will begin to master the strategy of the smart one — I will more carefully choose actions that work for the result I need! I will do not what I want at the moment, but what will work for the result.”
I will think about smart actions in my life, and not about whether I love or do not love myself.
I know well that I always love myself, I just haven’t mastered all the smart strategies yet. So this is also the truth of life — smart actions come with experience, the main thing is not to litter your head with slogans from poorly educated people and everything will be fine.
And a little more information for thought: What do you think, friends, Janusz Korczak began to love himself less when, for the moral support of children, he went to his death with them, although he had the opportunity not to sacrifice himself?