Rules of modern etiquette: what do women need to know about them?

Etiquette yesterday, today, tomorrow

Relations between us are built according to certain unwritten rules, especially when it comes to business communication. Such norms are called etiquette.

The way we behave in society depends on various factors: on the situation, time of day, national characteristics, on the status of the interlocutor.

Of course, there are basic rules that will never lose their relevance. But still today the norms of etiquette have changed.

We have become much more mobile and active: we travel more, work in multitasking mode. Women are more likely to occupy leadership positions. In business etiquette, unlike secular, there are no gender differences. Here, the rules of conduct are built depending on the position that a person occupies, or the status of the company in which he works.

In a secular society, women and the elderly used to be treated patronizingly: they gave coats, opened the door. Of course, in some situations these rules are still relevant. But if we are talking about business etiquette, then expecting to be given a good seat at a meeting just because you are a woman is still not worth it. Although male compatriots in these cases often show gallantry and care.

Women in social work and business still have a much harder time than men. It is quite logical that many business women have a question: how, on the one hand, to feel and convey femininity, and on the other hand, to be a professional, follow subordination and not demand some kind of supernatural attitude towards yourself?

Good manners in Russia and in the world

Each nation has national characteristics, so the rules of behavior in society are different. In the United States, women’s struggle for their rights has led to the fact that an American woman can even sue a man who, in her opinion, will behave inappropriately towards her.

The situation is similar in Northern Europe. But in France and Italy, for example, men are much more likely to openly woo women.

In a foreign company, a Russian person may be bewildered if a woman is not allowed to go ahead or the door is not opened in front of her. In fact, foreigners do not want to offend anyone – this is a local cultural feature. They clearly distinguish where the professional ends and the personal begins.

5 Basic Rules for Women Leaders

1. Look appropriate for the place. First of all, you need to follow the dress code requirements in order to be perceived as a professional. Appearance should correspond to the position that you occupy or want to occupy.
2. Be ready to take on leadership roles. Women leaders are often very timid. No need to wait for someone to take the initiative. Show that you are the person who occupies a higher position in the group, and it is you who sets the tone for the negotiations.
3. Remember the principle of the “monastery”: “They don’t go to a foreign monastery with their own charter.” Collect the maximum amount of information about partners, place: what is accepted and not accepted to do.
4. Understand not only where you are going, but also to whom. When interacting with business partners, it is necessary to take into account their peculiarities. Now a lot can be learned from social networks (company mission, hobbies, religious views). It is much easier to build a dialogue when you know which topics can be raised and which not.
5. Treat the other person with respect and understandingnot humiliate his dignity. Opinions may vary. Going personal will never lead to compromise solutions. You can disagree, criticize, tactfully defend your point of view, but do it in such a way as not to hurt your partner’s feelings.