Already during a clear indication, you should know: What will I do next if the child still does not obey?
How did you react before this? It is possible that one or another of the common parental mistakes crept in: reproaches, why-questions, threats without consequences, severe punishments or beatings. This reaction comes from a mixture of feelings: rage, anger and helplessness. In a state of extreme excitement, we do not think of more acceptable methods of education. Therefore, the following applies:
- We need to think in advance and plan the consequences that follow from our words.
- We should not punish the child, but show the boundaries. To do this, you need to show the child: «Stop! I cannot tolerate this behavior.» Therefore, we are not talking about punishment, but about conclusions and consequences.
- Our child is always faced with a choice: Either I stick to the rules and do what my parents say, or I agree with the next steps.
- For these measures to have an effect, they may be undesirable or unpleasant for the child. But in no case do not cause physical or mental injury.
- And we have to justify our actions. For example like this: «I love you. You are very important to me. That’s why I care about your behavior. You need to follow the rules. I will help you with this.»