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Treaty with Katyusha
This agreement is signed between children and adults with the aim of both maintaining peace and love in the family, and for the formation of useful and correct attitudes, values, habits of the family.
- Responsibilities of the parties: The child takes seriously the obligation to comply with the rules of harmony, development, beauty and order. Adults take the obligation to monitor compliance with the rules of the family no less seriously.
- The contract is valid until the end of the current year. At the request of the parties, the contract can be quickly extended for any period.
- Dispute resolution procedure. All disputes are considered by the interested parties in a warm and friendly atmosphere. The decision is made within ten minutes. To resolve disputes, a justice of the peace (Petya), the most fair judge in the world, whose services are paid by the party who applied to him, can be involved.
- Changing the terms of the contract. The terms of the contract cannot be changed just like that. The parties are obliged to sincerely drink tea, respectfully discuss the new conditions and joyfully amend the existing contract. All exceptions are by agreement. These exceptions should bring joy to all participants and benefit our spiritual, mental and physical health.
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FAMILY RULES with KATYUSHA
BEAUTY
- We are positive suns! Without sour. Whine no more than 2 minutes 45 seconds a day.
- Regal posture — radiant smile (Game Venus)
- Pure speech without parasites.
- I wake you up — you smile at me and get up for a minute.
- In the morning, quickly wash, brush your teeth, comb your hair, make the bed. Shower in the evening.
HARMONY
- Daily prayer: a) gratitude, b) repentance c) request
- Respect adults. Don’t be rude.
- In case of disagreement — possible options for behavior: a) obey, silently do it with love and a smile; b) a constructive dispute (begins with the consent of the partner’s point of view, then we express our position. We discuss the pros and cons, we act).
- Not a drop of cold sharp evil. We solve all issues in a calm atmosphere, benevolently, do not raise our voice, do not swear.
- Do at least 1 good deed per day (help, care, donation, etc.)
ORDER
- Wardrobe — clean things are neatly folded, dirty things are in the wash.
- The desk is in full order, things in the room are put in their places until 22.00
- The bed must be made every morning.
- Be sure to clean up after yourself without being reminded.
- After eating, clean up after yourself and wash the dishes.
- 1 time per week cleaning in the apartment (what to do — determines the adult)
DEVELOPMENT
- In the diary, write down homework at school. Take home daily.
- In order not to forget your business — set a sound reminder in your phone
- Study well (without 3 in a quarter), try hard.
- At lessons and rehearsals, try to do everything that the teachers say
- TV, internet, computer. games: it is allowed to watch educational programs. Entertainment — by arrangement. How much and what to play / watch — an adult decides
Sanctions for breaking the rules
One reminder allowed. Then there is the penalty:
- Squat / push up / press
- Temporary deprivation (hugs/Temple/society/entertainment)
- Fine — 20 USD
- We invent sanctions for ourselves
If the child has been smart all week, at the end of the week he receives a gift (a smile, a hug, a chocolate bar or a bonus). What — decides an adult.
From the editors of Psychologos:
First: the contract is real, daughter Katya is 9 years old, her mother is smart and talented. The atmosphere in the family is warm, everyone loves each other, but I want to improve discipline.
Second: many people have a question, how fair is the contract, which spells out the obligations of only one party? In our opinion, in this case, everything is fair. In many families, the requirements for children are either overestimated, or fuzzy and floating, while for what and how the child will be punished, no one knows, and the child cannot warn this. The same contract says that quite understandable and certain things are required from the child, the sanctions are also known, and this makes the situation more understandable for the child. Such an agreement can be called an agreement on the boundaries of friendly relations: if the child fulfills it, the parents are obliged to treat him only in a friendly way, and not according to their mood. An analogue is the rules of the road: they define the duties of the driver and indicate the sanctions for a particular violation. Fine. This is traffic rules, not a bonded contract between drivers and the state.
If the child suddenly asks what are the duties of the parents, then this point is easy: the parents undertake to take care of the child and educate him. This is a huge job, there are a lot of very serious points here, if you write down at least the main ones, then the work of being a parent will not seem small anymore … Yes?
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